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#1051 KarenM

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    Posted 27 April 2010 - 08:48 AM

    Amy, you are SO not heartless for not wanting to change your name! And it's especially understandable since your dad passed away. I don't want to change mine either, so I've pretty much decided to ignore this particular topic for now. I don't know that I'll never want to change it, I just want the choice to be mine later if & when I feel like changing it. There's no one way to do this, in my opinion. A friend of mine waited 3 years til they had their first child to change her name & another waited until her license expired. Others change it right away. I think under the circumstances & stress of planning a wedding it's OK to put this off and allow yourself time to decide whether you'll change it or not.


    oh and GREAT planning thread lady! So much fun! I love all the Etsyness floating all over the place! :)


    Welcome Stacey!


    I've got finals tomorrow & I'm sooooo not ready. This isn't gonna be pretty.

    #1052 dianep

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      Posted 27 April 2010 - 09:05 AM

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      Originally Posted by KittenHeart
      I'm still so undecided on changing my last name! I think I figured out today a big reason why I want to keep mine... if feels like it's the last piece of my dad that I have, he's passed away and I feel like I will lose that. I hope you girls don't think I'm totally heartless for not wanting to change it :)
      i know you said the two last names are similar, but what if you just kept your current one as an additional middle name and then took on the new last name? your dad's name would always be a part of you, yet you'd be able to share a last name with your husband and future kids... ?
      http://i707.photobuc..../065copy-1.jpg
      and happily ever after begins...


      wedding review (the royal and the gran porto real, playa del carmen)http://bestdestinati....ew-long-59649/

      #1053 Lady_Di

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        Posted 27 April 2010 - 09:13 AM

        Quote:
        Originally Posted by KittenHeart
        I'm still so undecided on changing my last name! I think I figured out today a big reason why I want to keep mine... if feels like it's the last piece of my dad that I have, he's passed away and I feel like I will lose that. I hope you girls don't think I'm totally heartless for not wanting to change it :)
        Of course, I don't think you are heartless! Not at all. Completely understandable. Like Diane, can you just hyphenate it even though your FI's last name is similar or make your last name your middle name?

        #1054 JT3

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          Posted 27 April 2010 - 11:31 AM

          Kitten Heart you are not heartless... I will be hyphenating so that I still have my last name and still be part of his family. I guess to me the best of both worlds..LOL...

          #1055 MRhoades0219

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            Posted 27 April 2010 - 12:32 PM

            I think the decision to change your last name is a very personal one! I don’t think anyone should ever look at someone else as heartless just because they don’t want to! As long as your FI is supportive of the decision, I say keep it till you are ready! We are a very traditional family…so for me, I never thought twice about it!

            #1056 beachbum1285

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              Posted 27 April 2010 - 12:45 PM

              dianep - Thanks for posting that link. I wouldn't have even known where to start to change my name. It all seems so overwhelming!

              Thanks everyone for welcoming me! :)
              ~Stacy

              #1057 Lady_Di

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                Posted 27 April 2010 - 02:47 PM

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                Originally Posted by dianep
                so i know there's been a lot of talk about the changing of last names. i can't WAIT to change mine! but for me and those who are changing, i found this checklist on a random website when i did a search. it'll help you with the beginnings of a list of aaaalllll the places you'll need to change it!
                http://www.bridekit....itchecklist.pdf
                Jesus Christ! All that just to change my last name. We better not get divorced or I'm going to be pissed! Lol. Thanks for the link.

                #1058 dianep

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                  Posted 27 April 2010 - 02:54 PM

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                  Originally Posted by Lady_Di
                  Jesus Christ! All that just to change my last name. We better not get divorced or I'm going to be pissed! Lol. Thanks for the link.
                  haha, THIS is what it takes to make you not want to get divorced? haha, whatever incentive you need!

                  nah, i'm sure you two will be happy together for a very long time and you won't have to ever think about this stuff again after you're done!
                  http://i707.photobuc..../065copy-1.jpg
                  and happily ever after begins...


                  wedding review (the royal and the gran porto real, playa del carmen)http://bestdestinati....ew-long-59649/

                  #1059 KittenHeart

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                    Posted 27 April 2010 - 03:20 PM

                    Thanks girls, I definitely cannot hypenate my name it sounds RIDICULOUS :) I wish that was an option, I am just going to give it time and decide later, good suggestion :)

                    #1060 beachbum1285

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                      Posted 27 April 2010 - 03:56 PM

                      Quote:
                      Originally Posted by Lady_Di
                      Jesus Christ! All that just to change my last name. We better not get divorced or I'm going to be pissed! Lol. Thanks for the link.

                      LOL right! Not only that but no one in my entire family has been divorced and I don't want to be the first!
                      ~Stacy




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