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Have to cancel. So distraught.

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#11 Jess

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    Posted 29 September 2009 - 06:10 PM

    I'm so sorry you are going through this right now- HUGS

    #12 Patti

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      Posted 29 September 2009 - 06:16 PM

      I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I agree with the other gals. Just hold you head up and know that you are doing the right thing for your marriage.

      #13 Melidell

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        Posted 30 September 2009 - 12:55 AM

        I'm so sorry. You must be feeling so disappointed- it's perfectly normal to be angry. I think it's important to not bottle it up; talk to your fiance about how you're feeling. He's probably feeling pretty badly now, too, and remember you're in this together. You have every right to be angry and sad, though, and don't feel guilty about it.
        My fiance and I had plans to get married earlier than we actually are now, but life kept getting in the way and we pushed it back a few times. In retrospect though, I am so glad we did. We're in such a good place now and we're having the wedding that we want. Getting your finaces in order is no fun but once you have your wedding planning will be that much easier, I promise.
        Hang in there and vent away if you need.
        Loving married life!

        #14 FutureMsMoulton

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          Posted 30 September 2009 - 02:15 AM

          Jenna I am so sorry to hear that and I can't imagine how crushed you are feeling inside! I know that you are putting on a brave face and saying its ok-- no really its going to be ok and inside you die a little every time you say it. Just keep telling yourself its only temporary and you WILL get your dream wedding!

          #15 bride2010

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            Posted 30 September 2009 - 02:18 AM

            So sorry to hear the news! Hang in there...things always have a way of working out and remember that we're always here anytime you need to get things off your chest. Don't feel bad for being disappointed. I would be in the same boat had I been in your situation.
            26 Booked + Bride & Groom
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            #16 JennandMike08

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              Posted 30 September 2009 - 10:36 AM

              Thank you all for your words of encouragement. I'll probably hang around here and continue to get some ideas, maybe for later.

              Part of me is really beginning to wonder if this is a sign that it wasn't meant to be and the other part is questioning whether this is just truly a test of our relationship. I have been putting up with a lot lately and I feel like my strength is beginning to weaken. And with that weakening, more doubt comes.
              I hope that it is really just a test of our relationship and we can get through it. Right now I just have to worry about how we will deal with this situation in general and hope and pray that we can keep up for a while.

              #17 Tanya Marie

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                Posted 30 September 2009 - 10:50 AM

                Jenna~ Keep your head up sweetie! I was in your situation also...5 years of "next year, next year, next year" It was frustrating!
                In hindsight, i am glad that we waited, we have had MANY tests of our relationship, which we made it through. We didn't have money, we were moving, we had career changes and A BABY! All Hugh relationship tests... we made it and are now planning OUR dream wedding.
                Before, I have to say, that it felt like it was just my wedding bc he wasn't ready for various reasons. And if it turns out that the 2 of you weren't meant to be that's ok too! You will be fine and everything will work itself out.
                I am a firm believer in "everything happens for a reason" Good luck and keep us posted.
                Happily Married after an AMAZING wedding at the Playaca Palace in Playa del Carmen, MX!!!

                #18 nsbride2010

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                  Posted 30 September 2009 - 11:04 AM

                  I second Tanya - everything happens for a reason! It is most likely just a test of your relationship, rather than a sign that its over... the feeling that its over probably comes from the fact that you are angry about what has happened. Dont let a small setback ruin it :) Hugs
                  Enjoying marital bliss since July 1st, 2010

                  #19 thefuturemrslutz

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                    Posted 30 September 2009 - 05:04 PM

                    So sorry girl!! I kind of went through the same thing (my FI decided we should not have a wedding since we are building a house). I know it is SO hard, but try to hash through it before you make any final decisions. Can you cut back? Can the two of you just go get married? If not, plan for your wedding in 2011!!!! That gives you 2 years to save!!! It will get better...promise :) Destination weddings are supposed to be LESS stressful, but to me, they are not! Hang in there!!!!!

                    #20 **~Linda~**

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                      Posted 30 September 2009 - 06:57 PM

                      So sorry you have to postpone i think your feelings are completely natural...Take your time and after you get that chance to breathe and vent maybe sit down with FI and try to plan your perfect wedding for 2011!..

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