My DW has been cancelled :(

[brandynd]

Oh ladies, so much has happened, and it’s all happened fast. As many of you know, a large part of the reason Andy and I decided on a DW was because of his fathers’ untimely death this past May. It didn’t feel right to have a huge wedding here when Dale couldn’t be a part of it. So the planning for our DW began.

This past week everyone started bailing out on the wedding, and FI and I took a really hard financial hit. We had paid the deposits for everyone’s trip which were nonrefundable (our guests were aware of this), and they don’t feel obligated to reimburse us for this expense. To top it all off, the woman who had been dating FI’s father for the past few years filed a lawsuit against his estate for money that she isn’t even entitled to, and because of this FI and his sisters are all having to pay in money to the estate until the matter is settled. Because of this we are unable to afford all of the details that we wanted for our DW, which was getting rapidly expensive. Also, I am having personal issues with my parents, as they are in the middle of dissolving their marriage.

After sitting down and having a long conversation, Andy and I have decided that it is in the best interest of our sanity and financial future that we stay local and plan our wedding back home in Omaha. It has been one of the most difficult and heartbreaking decisions that I have ever had to make, but there comes a time when you have to compromise things that you may want in order to get things done.

We will still be going to Mexico in January, so I guess that’s good. Looks like I’ll just have a week of partying to do down there before the wedding. Idk, this has been so much to take in in such a short time, and I’d be lying if I said I weren’t disappointed in how things turned out. It’s just disheartening when you put so much work into something, just to have everything come crashing down around you.

I am so grateful for all of the help that I have received through this forum. You women have been so informative and supportive of everything, from my troubles deciding on BM dresses, to helping me cope with my less than welcoming mother in law. It sounds so cheesy, but if it weren’t for being able to get honest and in-biased feedback from you ladies I probably would have lost it by now.

I will be selling everything I had for my DW soon, and it looks like I’m back to square one on the planning front. We will be married on February 13, 2010 at St. John’s Catholic Parish here in Nebraska. That gives me just about 4 and a half months to plan a wedding from scratch. WISH ME LUCK LADIES!

[amqueens]

I am sooooo sorry for all of ur troubles. I wish u all of the luck and happiness in the world!!

[amygirl1169]

Wow, so sorry to hear of all these terrible things happening to you, but good luck with your local wedding and remember that it's the marriage that matters, not the wedding!

 

[Kristy!]

Oh, I'm so sorry. That sucks, I know you'll be able to put together a beautiful wedding in the time you have.

[jenniebey]

So sorry to hear that you have to cancel your DW. It's hard when things turn out a little different than you expected.

 

However it sounds like you have a plan going and the most important thing is that at the end of everything is that you'll be married and ready to start this new chapter of your life.

 

Good luck with all of your planning!

[vlynnw]

I'm so sorry to hear that, it's an awful situation. I completely understand the estate issue my mother is currently involved in one against my uncle and it does put a huge strain on everything. I know it's heartbreaking to have to cancel your dream wedding with just a few short months left to go. I really hope that everything works out for you and you can make Omaha turn into your dream in the next 4 months! I'm sure everything will still be wonderful and beautiful and the most important thing is that it's your wedding day and in the end it doesn't matter what your location is, the only thing that's important is walking down the aisle to stand in front of the man of your dreams that you will spend the rest of your life with!

[lily17bear]

I'm sorry to hear that. Like everyone else said, the most important part is the fact that you are marrying the person you love. Good luck with planning your wedding back at home. Wish you the best

[*HOLLY*]

Hang in there! Im sorry to hear about the troubles that you are going through. I know you will still have a wedding you will look back on and love. You can plan a wedding in that amount of time good luck to the both of you!

[Vikki]

I know this was a tough decision for you but it sounds like the right one at this time. Maybe for your 1 or 5 year you could do a "vow renewal" if the idea of the destination ceremony is really important.

 

For now try to forget about what you're not going to get to do and focus on all the ways you can make your at home wedding special. I sure hope everything works out ok and wish you the best.

[EDRBride2009]

I'm sorry to hear that you are no longer having a destination wedding. I know this must be disappointing, but you will have a fabulous wedding at home!! Just remember that all of us BDW ladies (and guys) are still here to help you!