Worried about this...can someone make me feel better? :(
Posted 25 September 2009 - 10:03 AM
My problem is, like so many women on this board, I have NO IDEA how many guests are coming. So far, my fiance and I are the only ones booked, along with my friend and her guest. We did not do a group rate - I do have a TA, but I am leaving this up to my guests to book - they can use the TA or book it themselves through Orbitz, etc. Everyone is an adult, I do not want to have to hold people's hands and harass them to book.
We are 7 months out, should I be concerned about this? My mom and dad (who are booking next month) keep telling me to CHILL, that there is nothing I can do about this. I know Mom is right! I am sending out the invitations in the next few weeks, which will be great cause it's one less thing to do. I guess I just keep seeing brides on here whose wedding dates are after mine, and they have tons of people booked!
Of course, I am with the majority of DW brides - everyone and their mother is telling me right now "oh my gosh we can't wait to be there, we are IN!". Yea well, thats nice of them to say...but I will believe it when I see them book. I know I am going to have dissapointments with this, I am bracing myself!
Anyways, maybe someone on here can make me feel better about this. I know there will be some very close friends of mine who just can't swing it, but I just want some reassurance - I really don't want to have to be harassing people to book their trip. I am 30 years old, my fiance is 33 - we are all adults here, I don't want to babysit! I guess my question also is, if I send the invitations out in October, when should my RSVP date be? Should I also be asking my guests to book by a certain date? My parent's best friends, who are probably coming, are the type to book it last minute and do it on their own. So putting a deadline on there for booking might not be a good idea. Thoughts?
Ok, there is my vent, thank you for listening!
Posted 25 September 2009 - 10:09 AM
My wedding was in May, my RSVP deadline was in March and I sent the invites out late Jan. I did that to give people a kick in the butt to book. However half the people that came didn't RSVP. You just can't win!
Posted 25 September 2009 - 10:17 AM
I think I am driving my mother up the wall, thank god she is like my rock! I guess I just get very annoyed that nearly everyone is saying they are coming. I just want honesty, you know? I would rather people be upfront with me NOW, than tell me they are coming and then drop off the face of the earth right before the wedding.
Posted 25 September 2009 - 10:32 AM
I would say, figure out when you need to have a definite number by for seating, reception, etc. If you need to have a definite number by let's say a month before your wedding, then maybe like a month and a half before then I would just put the word out that you need a final head count for food because you don't want anyone attending not to have a plate (if you are doing a reception). That usually helps to motivate people because no one wants to be the loser without any food
Posted 25 September 2009 - 10:36 AM
Posted 25 September 2009 - 10:48 AM
For instance we are inviting 150 and 22 are booked. It's our immediate families, a few bridal party members and those who knew this was in the works for a long time and were dying for us to get engaged and book the place. We have been together since March of 2002. So they knew...but people have their own lives and that's just the truth.
I think that you need to put an RSVP on the invitations. Give two months.
An FYI for my time frame.
Sent STD in May 09 with reference to the website.
Sending invitations first week in January 2010.
RSVP due by Feb 28, 2010
We leave April 26th.
If people I know aren't booked yet that have expressed interest, at that point it's rude...just like any other non RSVPer’s and I would call them to find out their intentions.
Just my opinion.
Posted 25 September 2009 - 10:56 AM
To be honest, I prefer 20-30 ppl tops, I want a small, intimate wedding. That way, I can spend time with everyone I just don't want to hound people about coming. I also know times are tough for a lot of people, so I am going to be understanding.
I really appreciate the advice on when to send things out, because I have been kind of lost when it comes to this. Thank you all for your advice!
Posted 25 September 2009 - 11:01 AM
Posted 25 September 2009 - 11:05 AM
anyway, long story short...just try not to stress about it too much. Give your resort a number for guests that is your high number of possibles.
After planning our wedding and dealing with people who didn't RSVP....I have learned going forward for anything we are ever invited to in the future, we will RSVP...I so don't want to be that person that people are waiting for an RSVP from!
Posted 25 September 2009 - 11:49 AM
Jr and i have learned from this and we will definately make sure that for future invites that we receive we will rsvp and keep our word. It is frustrating for a bride to go through this but noone ever knows until you go thru it.
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