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Help! More bridesmaids than groomsmen

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#1 SDbeachgirl

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    Posted 22 September 2009 - 09:36 PM

    Hi there,

    I have a MOH and my FI thinks he has a BM. However, I have 2 more friends that I would like to be my bridesmaids. I have told them that I am waiting to find out if we will have any groomsmen and that I should know by Dec. But it is killing me that I can't tell them now. At this point, I don't know if we will have any more groomsmen. My FI's friends are flakey and they think a destination wedding is a little expensive. So they aren't exactly jumping at the chance to go. It's actually quite sad. But regardless, I have my friends who are so excited for me and who would love to be in my wedding and I would love to have them.

    My question is, do you think it will look odd, to have 1 MOH, 1 Best Man, and 2 Bridesmaids (1 flower girl and 1 ring bearer too)? And if I did have it this way, how should I arrange the ceremony?

    #2 Melidell

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      Posted 22 September 2009 - 11:51 PM

      I don't think that's odd at all! If you have two friends on board already who you want to ask, go ahead and do it- don't feel like you have to wait for other people to commit first. The most important thing is that the people who are close to you are there with you, I wouldn't worry about even numbers. Since I've started researching weddings I've noticed people don't bother playing by those old rules anymore anyway. You can have best women, men of honour, etc.. anything goes and in the pictures I've seen it looks just fine.

      What about just having two girls walk together- that way you can still pair off the MOH and BM and you'll have even numbers?

      Ultimately just go with your gut- it sounds like you want your friends to stand up with you and if that's the case then go with it and everything else will fall into place.
      Loving married life!

      #3 jh17

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        Posted 23 September 2009 - 09:58 AM

        I totally agree-I don't see anything wrong with odd numbers and I am in the same situation! I originally had 3 bridesmaids but for a variety of reasons only one is making it to the wedding. My fi has 2 groomsmen and we have our roommate (who is also my best friend) who is kind of standing for both of us-I tell everyone he is my maid of honor. I am not sure if he will stand on my side of my Fi's side at the ceremony. I think I will have him walk down the aisle with my bridesmaid and have the two groomsmen together.
        I think you should do whatever makes you happy and I agree with Melidell-go with your gut!

        #4 SDbeachgirl

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          Posted 23 September 2009 - 10:28 AM

          Thank you both so much! This really helps with my decision. I think I will ask them to be in my wedding and as for the groom's side, I will just see what happens. Whether we have 1,2, or 3 men standing on his side we will make it work!

          #5 breeze616

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            Posted 23 September 2009 - 10:55 AM

            Hey there! There is a member on here (Ana) that was married with an un-even number of BM to GM - here is her review:


            I'm sure she'd be happy to let you know how she worked that out! I'm most likely going to have a very un-even number too. Don't sweat it! Everything about our DW is pretty unconventional, why not this too?!!

            #6 stevensFiance

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              Posted 23 September 2009 - 11:21 AM

              No ones bridal party is ever really the same amount of people, I have 5 girls in total with my MOH and my fiance has his BM and 3 GM, not that much of a difference, but my brother just got married in May and bridal party consisted of 12 Bm's a MOH his BM and 4 GM, most of the guys had 2 girls to walk with a few walked alone and some girls walked in 2, I walked with my father and brother. Dont worry about it, itll work out!
              He asked, I said YES!!! 1 <3 21 <3 04 - 5 <3 13 <3 08

              #7 echo2_62

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                Posted 23 September 2009 - 11:33 AM

                This was SO the perfect time to find this thread! I've really been debating how many Bm's to ask especially because we didn't want to get into too big of a wedding party. So far I have two (and I might not actually declare a MOH because I can't decide on that either!) and I'm still really stuck between the other three friends that top my list. At least now I won't feel like I'm the only one with different numbers.

                It sounds like there are a few of us going a more unconventional route anyways. If you can believe it, I'm not even having my dad walk me down the aisle even though he's attending the wedding! He gets really uncomfortable in front of groups so I figure why put him in that situation?! This is supposed to be a RELAXED event for everyone involved so as long as he's there to give me a big hug and hand me over (ha!) then I'm totally fine with that.

                #8 *Nadine*

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                  Posted 23 September 2009 - 12:06 PM

                  Its totally fine. I think you should ask however many people you want. I originally had 8 bmaids and my FI had 7, but now one of my girls cant come cause she is prego, so now we are even. I wouldnt have cared either way tho. Its more important to both of us to have who we want and not sacrifice just b/c of it being uneven.

                  good luck :)

                  #9 YaelM


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                    Posted 23 September 2009 - 12:30 PM

                    I think its 100% normal :) I had a MOH and Bridesmaid and my DH had a Best Man and 2 groomsmen and it looked totally normal. For the ceremony we had the MOH and Best Man walk together and then had my bridesmaid walk out in the middle with a groomsmen on each side - i thought it was great. We also just had them sit in the front row in chairs rather than stand up with us during the ceremony.

                    Personally I think it shouldnt matter if its an even bridal party or not - just that you have the ppl you love and want be in your party

                    #10 Tilly in the Sun

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                      Posted 23 September 2009 - 06:24 PM

                      I am so glad that you asked this...this has been something we have been wondering about lately as there is a chance we might be 'odd numbered'. It is good to hear so many DWer's have gone this route before! I love how unconventional everything is about a DW!!

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