5 months to go and "no" dress....
Posted 18 September 2009 - 01:45 PM
I know by this point I will not be able to order a dress and I'm ok with that. BUT my fiance is being pretty stubborn and says I have a dress already so I don't need to buy another one. I'm starting to worry that he will throw a fit and not let me get a new dress OR that if he does, I won't be able to find something I love and will have to settle due to time constraints. I'm really stressing out about this right now. The last thing I want is to get married in a dress I don't like. I want to look my best and be happy with how I look. I don't know what to do here.....
Posted 18 September 2009 - 01:54 PM
I wish you luck and hope you find what your looking for. Bc we all know its about the dress...lol
Posted 18 September 2009 - 02:02 PM
The dress is "Lavina" by Maggie Sottero. I tried it on while shopping with one friend. My face turned red, I got REALLY giggly, couldn't stop smiling and just didn't want to take it off. Ever. Another reason I didn't buy it right then (aside from the cost) is that I hadn't gone dress shopping with my mom and I didn't want to buy a dress without having that experience (not necessarily her input though). I probably could have arranged a way to try it on without telling her I had seen it before but I just knew my fiance wouldn't go for it considering how much it is. I've found it a couple places, just not in my current size. I was with a whole group of people for the second dress and didn't want to commit with so many other people's opinions flying around. And like I said before, it just wasn't the look I was going for....
Posted 18 September 2009 - 02:03 PM
Posted 18 September 2009 - 02:06 PM
When I ordered my Sottero & Midgley, I was told that it would take 4 months for it to come in and about 1 month later, I had gotten a call that it had arrived at the salon and was ready for me to try on again, but this time, it was my actual dress and not the sample! So.....things can work out as far as the timing is concerned.
Or, if you're not getting it from a salon, check out pre-owned wedding dress sites (there are some really good ones with mid-high end dresses like http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com/).
And about your FI -- tell him that it will break your heart to wear anything less than your dream dress, and that you got the other dresses because you felt like you had no choice. If you can make him understand that you're not getting a different dress to be frivilous (men don't understand the actual emotional connection women have to clothing, particularly their WEDDING DRESS!), then maybe you will be able to get his support and approval.
And, it's not a bad idea to remind him that any smart groom should know that he should do whatever is necessary for his bride not to be brokenhearted....it generally makes for a better wedding night for him in the end, if you know what I'm getting at!
Good luck and I say go with your heart and get YOUR dress -- it's the most special dress you will ever wear in your life, and you should certainly have the one you love!
P.S. I checked out your Lavina on the Maggie site -- it's a magnificent gown and I can totally understand why you are so smitten with it!
Posted 18 September 2009 - 02:25 PM
His parents are having a pre-wedding reception for us in November and I was originally going to cut the AHR dress off to knee length for this. I think I'll still do it and then it's "oh, but I cut the dress off! I can't wear THAT in February!" Hahaha. And I need to start reminding him about how much $$$$$ he spends on his saltwater fish hobby. "REALLY dear?! $700 for something that just moves water?!" Hmm. His argument to that is that he can get a greater resell % for his stuff than I can a dress. IF I even sell it.
Thanks for all the positive comments guys! You're making me feel better.
Posted 18 September 2009 - 02:42 PM
Posted 19 September 2009 - 05:46 AM
Posted 19 September 2009 - 05:46 AM
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