Step-MOG buys same color dress as MOB

[Jen2113]

OK so my husband I eloped on the fly in Maui 2 weeks ago to avoid drama and now are planning a reception at home. to make a long story short, I told his step mother my mom was wearing black. So she emails me yesterday and tell me they can be twins- she jsut bought a black dress (ALMOST SAME ONE) and calls my mom at work to see if they can match jewelry!!! WHAT THE HECK>?!~?!?! Does she have any class/etiquette? Somebody help me b/c what am i supposed to say? My mom is sooooo mad (PS my parents are paying for this ENTIRE 200 person reception). Come on though- who doesnt know that you dont match your dress to MOB?

 

There is no way she is this ignorant- she has to be trying to tick us off? Please any advice is appreciated.

[jmiranda]

Well Im no help because my mom and MOG are wearing similar color dress. I think it will look really nice but thats just me.

[Jen2113]

Yea similar is cool but not the same exact dress in the same exact color

[Jen2113]

Yea similar is cool but not the same exact dress in the same exact color

[josee]

Maybe just maybe she just don't know anything about etiquette?? Can it be possible to talk to her without hurting her feelings or making her inconfortable and see where she is coming from with this idea of wearing almost the same dress and jewelry as your mom?

[Jen2113]

I just think she is intentionally behaving like a biotch. It was made very clear that my mom picks her color, and then his mom can pick hers. This woman is off her rocker ie i told her i want a chocolate cake from my fav bakery- my two stipulations since she offered to get the cake. She tells me she is abs not getting it from that bakery. Like, whose wedding is this? I jsut cant wait for everything to be over.

[boscobel]

Hmmm, I don't know. If it wasn't black, I would say it's more of an issue. But black is the color that SO many women wear to weddings. Usually the parents coordinate to the bridal party, and then it would be more obvious if they were both wearing a teal/purple/fuschia/yellow/whatever color dress. I wouldn't worry about black too much.

[josee]

Ouch... I hear you. She is that kind of a MIL... Sorry she is such a bit$%?. Must be hard for you to handle. If you want a chocolate cake from your favorite bakery you should make sure to get it... It is your wedding, not hers! I don't know what kind of relantionship you have with her, but you should let her know you are not happy with her behavior and would like for her to understand that it is upsetting you.

[emme]

I'm with Carly on this one...black is fairly generic and I'm sure nobody will realize (or make a big fuss about) the MOB and MOG both wearing black. I think their accessories will make the difference...but I would certainly be sure not to share any jewelry secrets with the MOG because it sounds like she would make sure they were "twins". Bizarre and inconsiderate...but in the grand scheme of things I would just let it go.

[autjo]

What a terrible situation. I'm not very good on advice, but maybe this will make you laugh. The ironic thing is that one of my girlfriends sent me this joke today and IMO totally works for you...

 

Jennifer's wedding day was fast approaching. Nothing

could dampen her excitement -- not even her parent's

nasty divorce.

 

Her mother had found the PERFECT dress to wear and would be

the best-dressed mother- of-the-bride ever!

 

A week later, Jennifer was horrified to learn that her

father's new Young wife had bought the exact same dress!

 

Jennifer asked her to exchange it, but she refused.

'Absolutely not, I look like a million bucks in this

dress, and I'm Wearing it,' she replied.

 

Jennifer told her mother who graciously said, 'Never

mind sweetheart. I'll get another dress. After

all, it's your special day

 

A few days later, they went shopping and did find another

gorgeous dress. When they stopped for lunch, Jennifer asked

her mother, 'Aren't you going to return the other

dress? You really don't have another occasion where you

could wear it.

 

Her mother just smiled and replied, 'Of course I do,

dear.

 

I'm wearing it

to the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding.