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Father / Daughter walk or not? HELP!

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#1 Jennybell1

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    Posted 10 September 2009 - 05:32 PM

    Hello ladies,

    I would like your opinion on this situation please.
    This will be my second marriage and due to that we have decided to forego the "traditional" wedding bc I have already did that and I hated the expense that I incurred for one breif day.
    So we decided of course on a DW.
    The question is this....
    Do I have my father walk me down the isle again? Initally I was going to have my 6 yr old son walk down the aisle with me, however bc no one else is bringing their children, I have decided to leave my son with my exhusband as I dont think its fair for my son to be the only child there. I dont know what to do? Due to the fact that I am having an informal beach wedding whether or not its okay not to have my father take me down the isle. One bc he did it before and two bc its informal. Im also afraid of hurting his feelings possibly, but in the end it is my decision.
    Im not the 21 yr old I was when I got married the first time, I will be 33 by the time my wedding rolls around and I think its kinda weird having my father walk me down the isle again. Maybe bc of the failure of my first marriage. I dont know....Please help!

    Please keep in mind a few things when placing you opinion:
    1) informal wedding
    2) small beach ceremony
    3) 2nd marriage

    Thanks so much!

    #2 roo66

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      Posted 10 September 2009 - 05:53 PM

      Hi im not having my dad walk me down the isle either,he dosent know it yet!! im sure he wont mind.I have been married twice before the second time we went off to jamaica just the two of us.This time i had the guilty feeling of leaving them all behind including my children.So we curtailed our wedding in Hawaii for a DW wedding closer to home (GREECE) so they can be there.Our wedding is going to be very laid back im gunna have my parents and pauls and our friends there with our boys,leaving pauls two girls walking in to music playing and then me walking in with a different piece of music.The only traditional thing im doing is keeping out of pauls sight until i arrive.Dont feel guilty im sure he wont even realize it could of been n the agenda x

      #3 Jennybell1

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        Posted 10 September 2009 - 05:56 PM

        Thanks Roo66 for your input!

        #4 NewYorkie

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          Posted 10 September 2009 - 08:51 PM

          My piece advice is that it is your day and your way, lol! Getting married on a beach throws all formalities out the door and why most of us BDW brides/soon-be brides like you and I choose beach weddings.

          #5 Vikki

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            Posted 10 September 2009 - 09:17 PM

            It comes down to what you want. I don't think there's rules for informal DW settings. I wouldn't let the fact that it's informal or your second marriage enter the equation. If you think your father's feelings might be hurt by not asking maybe there's something else you can include him in. Remember...even though we're all grown up we're still daddy's little girl somewhere deep in their hearts and all he's going to want is for you to be happy. In the long run it won't matter to him if he walked you down or not.

            #6 jk1101

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              Posted 10 September 2009 - 09:41 PM

              I agree with Vikki. It's also my second wedding - and a small, informal beach one, but I will be having both my parents walk me down the aisle because I can't imagine going alone.

              #7 Erika J

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                Posted 10 September 2009 - 09:47 PM

                I agree the everyone. It is your wedding and you should do what you want. If you want your dads support to help you down the aisle that day.... than do it!

                There are no rules for a DW, if it is your first wedding or second, you get to do it your way!

                #8 tracyann

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                  Posted 11 September 2009 - 08:25 AM

                  I agree with everyone else- do what you want, and what you feel comfortable with. If that means having dad walk you down the aisle, then do it!

                  Good Luck!

                  #9 autjo

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                    Posted 11 September 2009 - 11:55 AM

                    I agree. Do whatever feels right to you!

                    #10 Candice

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                      Posted 11 September 2009 - 12:23 PM

                      I also agree. Do you what you feels right. Maybe sit down and talk it over with your dad and see what he thinks and feels he might surprise you! Just remember this is your wedding and your starting a NEW life with the one you love and whatever happened in your past marriage/wedding is that the past and will have no reflection your wedding day! :) Good luck...just follow your heart!
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