FI parents don't know we're engaged.

[kate.com]

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Originally Posted by spark I hear you girls, thanks for all your responses. I am letting him do whatever is necessary to make them realize that we're going to be married soon. I'm not in any rush to get married but I just know that I found the right guy. I am going to support him and be by his side while he figures things out with his parents. It is very shallow what they're doing but I can't blame his parents, they are very ancient. He is the last out of 7 children and his father is almost in his 80's.

Wow. There you have it! I am sorry you have to go through this... I think you are on the right track taking the high road. No regrets that way. Kill them with kindness, and deal with it head on. Thank God you dont live in the same town so its not a day to day thing.
And remember:you are in the right here. But considering your partners feelings even when unjustifies= what marriage is all about!

[adelaide]

oh my gosh. I am so sorry.

 

That is wrong. Plain and simple. I absolutely can't understand it and I'm sure you are just beside yourself.

 

I agree with the others - stay strong and let your FI deal with his parents.

 

I hope you can get past this and enjoy planning your wedding

[Ana]

that's terrible!! I think that you have a positive attitude and eventually they will see it too. My parents' parents (on both sides) didn't like the fact that they were getting married either, and it wasn't until I was born that both sides put aside their bs and started acting like grown ups. If they see how much you love eachother they will come to respect your relationship too.