I may have to ask a friend not to come
Posted 08 September 2009 - 03:58 PM
I think you're in a better position because you're done with the friendship. I would just sit her down and explain to her by giving examples. Let her know that she should not have a say in who YOU invite to YOUR wedding and let her know that you think it's best for her and for others that she doesn't come.
Easier said than done for sure.
Posted 08 September 2009 - 04:36 PM
| Originally Posted by LadyTrunck |
We posted at the same time Susie Q! You beat me to it--- it sounds like your mind is defnitely made up-- and I don't blame you a BIT! What a rude, unhappy person she is. Your life will be better without her.
My struggle is the confrontation and the knowledge that she will be nasty about it. I have no other choice, I have been feeling this pressure and stress from her for sometime.
I know the hardest choices are the best choices in the long run. Good Luck
Posted 08 September 2009 - 05:10 PM
Posted 08 September 2009 - 05:42 PM
My solution was to sit down and talk to her. I explained that at my dress fitting all I needed was creative criticism from her. I asked her to tone down her attitude and be nice to the sales people (she's the type that treats people ie waiters, salesreps etc as if they're beneath her because of the job they perform) And I told her it's my wedding day and my guest. I would love for her to be there but I'd love more not to be stressed.
Talk to her and explain your wishes, if she can't respect them she can gracefully RSVP not attending.
Posted 08 September 2009 - 06:34 PM
Posted 10 September 2009 - 07:14 PM
I walked onto the patio and her first words were " what thet hell was wrong with Jane (not her real name) this skinny "*itch and her friggin issues with the bathing suit? My friend Jane is very shy about bathing suits, I had a pool party Saturday nite with both friends there. Jane kept her wrap on unless she was in the pool and kept it close by otherwise. Next words out of her mouth(soon to be un invited) was "Stupid *itch is so uptight she make me sick, and I won't spend a week with her stupid issues. Ok now I am losing it. Oh and then she said to me, you need to get rid of people like that because their no fun, oh and who wants that at their wedding?
I just take a breath and say maybe you shouldn't come if you have issues with the other people I have invited". "Pen Drop" Then soon to be not invited goes on to say this is suposed to be a wedding not a funeral. Oh Dear!!!!!!!
So now I am telling her I can not deal with the stress of her being rude to other guest and her need for control it is mine and FI wedding. Ok I see tears now and she said i have to go to the bathroom.
15 minutes has gone by, I am just about to get up and she sticks her head out to the patio and asked " do you want to sit inside it's getting cold. Ok Yeah Sure... 5 minutes pass and I see her and her car leaving the parking lot. Waitress come by with the bill.... ok who's laughing? I am actually!!!!!!
Posted 10 September 2009 - 08:48 PM
Posted 11 September 2009 - 02:45 AM
Posted 11 September 2009 - 09:10 AM
Now take a deep breath and smile Its all working out.
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