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#41 SSNM

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    Posted 07 September 2009 - 10:58 AM

    One time my FH didn't talk to me for 2 days -- 2 DAYS!!! I was 'jonesing'. When we did finally talk I told him to never do that again unless he wanted it to be over. I couldn't handle it. His actions don't say that he wants to call a quits so he will eventually come around..hang in there.

    #42 lil_reeves

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      Posted 07 September 2009 - 01:21 PM

      You're totally doing the right thing by giving him his space. A lot of women can be very aggressive in this kind of situation and demand a solution and while with certain men that may work, to others that only makes matters worse.

      When my FI and I get into a major fight we will write a letter explaining the situation and how sorry we are and pretty much just say everything we need to. It's usually hard to write them but at least it spares the emotion that can get in the way of your brain functioning properly when talking in person. If i'm in the wrong I will write a letter and leave it somewhere so he can read it in private.

      It's just an idea...even if you just left him a note that says "Always remember that there isn't anything in this world that would stop me from loving you"

      I'm sure things will get better for you guys soon

      #43 DSHayes

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        Posted 07 September 2009 - 02:15 PM

        Everything is really quiet now...in our separate rooms...hope this ends soon...
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        #44 DSHayes

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          Posted 07 September 2009 - 07:58 PM

          Update: He has been sleeping/watching tv since 1:00 pm (afterwork)..I cooked dinner offered him a plate, shook his head no....

          So I went out for a mani/pedi...came back still sleeping, hasn't touched food...

          I guess we are not talking yet...

          One good thing is no matter what we vowed....NO ONE WILL SLEEP ON THE COUCH...

          So tonight I will accidently touch his feet with my fresh painted toes and see what happens....(wish me luck)...
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          #45 SSNM

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            Posted 07 September 2009 - 08:02 PM

            Good luck!

            #46 *kellis*

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              Posted 07 September 2009 - 08:07 PM

              Quote:
              Originally Posted by DSHayes
              Update: He has been sleeping/watching tv since 1:00 pm (afterwork)..I cooked dinner offered him a plate, shook his head no....

              So I went out for a mani/pedi...came back still sleeping, hasn't touched food...

              I guess we are not talking yet...

              One good thing is no matter what we vowed....NO ONE WILL SLEEP ON THE COUCH...

              So tonight I will accidently touch his feet with my fresh painted toes and see what happens....(wish me luck)...
              I hope things will get better for you two. And good for you, you'd be surprised how effective playing footsie or snuggling up next to him in bed can work to make him change his grumpy mood.
              I know this may be the last thing you want to do but in the same way that it meant something to you that he still grilled you a steak, maybe you should do something for him like go get him his favorite beer or something like that.

              Or if you're feeling really antsy to get him to start talking to you again, you could always resort to putting on something sexy and just sitting in the same room with him doing something like reading a magazine. No man in his right mind, even if angry, can ignore that. It's kind of playing dirty but we all have our womanly wiles for some reason right?
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              #47 DSHayes

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                Posted 07 September 2009 - 08:36 PM

                Good idea...
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                #48 DSHayes

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                  Posted 08 September 2009 - 01:48 PM

                  Will this ever end...i want my man back...
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                  #49 SSNM

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                    Posted 08 September 2009 - 03:01 PM

                    Okay now he is just making you suffer for no reason. I take it your attempts to warm up to him didn't work. I would straight up ask him how much more alone time does he think he needs and to decide on a time that you guys can work your stuff out. Alone time is one thing but flat out ignoring someone is another.

                    #50 lil_reeves

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                      Posted 08 September 2009 - 03:04 PM

                      I still say write him a letter....tell him how you're feeling and what this is doing to you. Unless you don't think he would read it. Oh and BTW handwrite it, don't email it or type it on the computer. I hope this ends for you very soon!




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