| Originally Posted by karenk77 |
Maybe you're right but joke or not i think its stupid of her to say
and her PM wasnt later it was 2 nights ago and that initially happened around march when my semester was done
maybe because I am so super sensitive..but there were times before where i used to swallow crap from others because I was afraid to open my mouth..and today I just dont care to..the only people that mean the most to me are my family and my fiance and if anything happens there then i will talk until im blue in the face to clear things up..here? I am done with friendship drama long ago..i dont need 20 girlfriends or have my girls nights or whatever, im a totally diff place today..i have my few people i trust(whick keeps getting smaller lol) and thats it..cant be bothered..hard enough making sure your relationship is best as can be and everyone you love is ok..for everything else? I cant be bothered
I've just been reading along with this and everyone has basically taken the words out of my mouth with, forget about the first girl everyone has that person who hears about your wedding especially a DW and starts hinting that they expect an invitation to try to guilt you into it. Funny how these are the people that would probably forget to invite you to anything of importance in their life because you just aren't that close.
I just wanted to say to not just start blaming yourself for being too sensitive so quickly. I am a lot like you in that I give and give of myself because I do everything with passion especially friendships and relationships. And for years I would tell myself that I was just taking it too personally when a friend that I was there for would not reciprocate or would make little biting remarks about things that they should be happy for me about. In the same way, while it is understandable that some of your friends may be friends with people that you dislike or are no longer friends with, there is a thin line between them talking about you and them not being a loyal friend. If this line gets crossed, sometimes you just have to give them the benefit of the doubt. But if it is also combined with a lack of enthusiasm for the joys in your life, or if they let you down as a friend in many other ways, then their friendship is more of a hindrance to you and your happiness.
At the same time, understand that your wedding is a lot more important to you and your FI (and all of us ladies here on BDW who love hearing all the juicy details) then most of your friends and even family and just because someone does something to offend you pertaining to your wedding because they're focusing on themselves, doesn't mean you should automatically revoke their invitation.
I may be completely off but for what they said to be that big of a deal, maybe you should be taking a good hard look at your friendship and really see if this is as big a deal as it seems or if their is other things going on with your friendship with this friend then just this.
Sorry for writing a book...I get on my soapbox sometimes when it comes to talking about friendships and people not being treated the way they should be.