"You finally got rid of your fiance?"
Posted 03 September 2009 - 08:02 PM
1st I have to give some backround info before i get to my question to bear with me please, and also know that I am not a girl that gets involved in drama at ALL! I hate this stuff I usually avoid it but this is weird
I am currently going for my masters, and a few months back I had a paper due that was like 160+ pages..when i was done i posted my facebook status as free at last, free at last! well...one of my friends(she considers herself one but i havent spoken to her in forever) wrote what happened ?you finally got rid of your fiance? I was soooooo pissed. Besides the fact that she has never met him in the 3 yrs weve been together hes probably the kindest person in the entire world and to say that without knowing him especially publically on facebook is retarted. So he reads this and gets upset and was like what did you tell her, are u trying to get rid of me? he was so upset..because he really thought i had said soemthing to her. So i wrote her some unpleasantries and kind of forgot about her after that.
At the time one of my actual close friends who does know her casually through me and knows my fiance very well wrote all these things about him saying hes the best thing in her life bla bla..and she told me i should drop the girl..i said im not in kindergarden...nothing to drop she wasnt in my life wasnt going to be, stop writing things on facebook because i dont care what she thinks and i dont want this drama.
fastforward to last night..i am online and the girl who originally wrote the you got rid of him, im's me and says oh congrats i heard you set the date i heard its in DR congrats...i was shocked because i never told her, never wrote anything on facebook, she doesnt have any mutual friends with me(or so i thought) and had no idea how she knew..so she proceeds to tell me that she spoke on the phone to my friend(the one who stood up for me when it was written) and that she had told her..so apparently they are friends. She proceeds to tell me that im gonna make such a beautiful bride and its going to be so beautiful, and she would love to see me as a bride..all these things..actually had the balls to ask how much its going to cost and all this other stuff. I was angry at my friend like why would you tell her that, what business is it of yours too share and puts me in an akward position now because I had no intention of inviting her..does this mean i have to??
Oh and by the way..the close friend of mine is one that i have been through everything in the world with her(4 bachelorette parties this girl had i went to all, the night she got engaged i ran out of bed when i was sleeping to go meet them & congratulate them, the day she gave birth i left work and ran to the hospital) when she found out about our wedding she said "ill see what i can do if i come or not" lol.
I love ittt!!!!
Posted 03 September 2009 - 08:14 PM
but seeing all the drama it caused, the other friend should have NEVER divulged details of your wedding to this chick. (and NO, you shouldn't invite her. you never *have to* invite anyone. invite the people who are meaningful to you and leave it at that).
as for your actual close friend ... "i'll see what i can do" would have made me cringe knowing i had done so much for her (not that you should keep track or anything ... i have an ex-friend who used to tally up her good deeds and seem to conveniently forget everything i ever did for her, lol). anyway i want to believe this chick isn't just selfish and actually just meant financially or because of her kid or whatever?
Posted 03 September 2009 - 08:23 PM
As for my close friend..omg we both cringed as she said it..because it was at another wedding we were at last week when my fiance said to her you guys are def going to come right? and so she had said that..i understand perfectly if its a financial circumstance (although i dont think it is) but even so..come to me and say listen i love you i would love to be there but we just cant swing it and i would understand completely..but to say it like that was more like f*ck off i dont know right now (oh and by the way my fiance left work too out of respect for me and came to the hospital the day she gave birth too) which was 2yrs ago and so at that time he didnt know her as well as he does today obviously
i was just disgusted.
Posted 03 September 2009 - 08:24 PM
BTW Congrats on MOTM!!!!! Go girl!!!!
Posted 03 September 2009 - 10:02 PM
As for your other friend, I really hope she pulls through for you at the end of the day. Maybe she was busy or rushed or had other things on her mind when she said she could see what she would do? I dunno, just thinking out loud. Anyway, best of luck with your wedding planning. This forum is such a treasure for all brides, past and future AND the Dominican Republic is a gorgeous place to have your wedding, I'm confident it will be an amazing day for you!
Posted 03 September 2009 - 10:23 PM
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Posted 03 September 2009 - 10:34 PM
Actually for BOTH of them!
Delete her off fb so you don't have to worry about her writing these little 'jokes' on your profile and tell your close friend to kindly keep the details of your life to herself and not share!
Posted 03 September 2009 - 10:46 PM
Posted 03 September 2009 - 10:52 PM
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