Okay, having a emotional breakdown
Posted 31 August 2009 - 11:53 AM
I feel like such an idiot.
Posted 31 August 2009 - 12:34 PM
It sounds like you are under a lot of stress. I would say the best thing to do at this point is call or send an email to address all of your concrens. It sounds like there are some gray areas and you are paying a lot of money.
I would also at this point, if you cant book another place, just try to stay positive and make the best of this. You are renting this property so just try to not worry about him lurking and keeping track. If you plan on going over 3 hours, tell him that and plan on paying the $200. It is better to have the time than worrying about it on your big day. Square everything away now that way you can relax and have the time of your lives on the biggest and best day of your life. This is a once in a lifetime deal.
Just my two cents. Good luck!
You will have an amazing wedding!
Posted 31 August 2009 - 01:13 PM
| Originally Posted by Alyssa |
i would NOT pay for 8 people if i was having 4 if it is not in writing!!! no way.
Posted 31 August 2009 - 01:39 PM
My FI is calling him with very detailed questions, and than is going to email him everythign they talked about and have him agree to it.
Thank you for the sympathy, and the helpful suggestions!
Posted 31 August 2009 - 02:05 PM
I think you've made a good decision to outline all of your questions/concerns and get both verbal AND written confirmation at this point. There's no need for anymore surprises from this guy now that you know how he is handling this.
As for the walk through the marsh area down to the beach, is there anyway that you can decorate a pathway of some sort for your guests to disguise things a little? I realize you maybe can't hide an entire marsh but perhaps you could lay down some sort of walkway and line it with torches or organza 'rope' to create an atmosphere? I don't know what kind of themes you have so I'm just throwing out one idea!
I hope that it all works out for you in the end!! Try to just breathe for now, and have an extra glass of wine as well
Posted 31 August 2009 - 03:01 PM
Remember there's always a silver lining in everything!
Posted 31 August 2009 - 03:09 PM
All you have to think about is that you are marrying the man of your dreams.The rest is small stuff & will work out!
Posted 31 August 2009 - 09:57 PM
| Originally Posted by SgtPepperette |
I will add that I talked to a bride that recently had her wedding there. She could not say enough positive things about the property. She was a little creeped out when she found out he lived there, but said he left for the day. The rest of the week she said they never saw him or his wife.
I saw a few pictures from her wedding to and they looked amazing.
I think after the wedding, you should write him a letter to encourage him to come up with a much clearer booking procedure and an actual contract that is sent out to the couple for their review and is to be signed and returned (with all of the "doesn't matter if it's 8 people or 6 or 4....it's all the same cost" fine print included!!) so that people aren't blind sided at the last minute with this type of nonsense!
And you're right -- most people, if they are lucky, only plan one wedding, and although there are a million bridal magazines out there, NO ONE can prepare you for how suspicious and on-top of some vendors you have to be so that you don't get taken for a ride. We are all happy and blissful, and thinking the best of everyone when we start making our plans, and it's a shame if it ever gets to the point that you have to have a team of lawyers review your contract for your venue or anything else!!! I mean, puh-leeze!!!
Hopefully, creepy upstairs-dwelling-guy and his wife will make themselves scarce during the time you are there and you, your FI and your guests can focus on the beautiful day/bridal experience that surely awaits you!
Stay strong, and TONS OF HUGS TO YOU!
Posted 31 August 2009 - 10:05 PM
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