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#11 SgtPepperette

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    Posted 31 August 2009 - 11:53 AM

    Trust me I do want out. I just havent figured out to go about it. If we do get out we will lose the $1300. And being 2 months away, we dont have any extra funds to change venues now.

    I feel like such an idiot.

    #12 Kristy!


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      Posted 31 August 2009 - 12:09 PM

      Originally Posted by Alyssa
      then why not go with 6 guests, not 8? doesn't make sense?
      That was my first thought too. I'd only pay for 6.

      #13 BBtoB

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        Posted 31 August 2009 - 12:34 PM

        Hi Honey,
        It sounds like you are under a lot of stress. I would say the best thing to do at this point is call or send an email to address all of your concrens. It sounds like there are some gray areas and you are paying a lot of money.

        I would also at this point, if you cant book another place, just try to stay positive and make the best of this. You are renting this property so just try to not worry about him lurking and keeping track. If you plan on going over 3 hours, tell him that and plan on paying the $200. It is better to have the time than worrying about it on your big day. Square everything away now that way you can relax and have the time of your lives on the biggest and best day of your life. This is a once in a lifetime deal.

        Just my two cents. Good luck! :)
        You will have an amazing wedding!

        #14 josee

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          Posted 31 August 2009 - 01:13 PM

          Originally Posted by Alyssa
          i would NOT pay for 8 people if i was having 4 if it is not in writing!!! no way.
          I totally agree with Alyssa, I would not pay for 8 people!!! Good luck in resolving this issue. Keep us posted.

          #15 SgtPepperette

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            Posted 31 August 2009 - 01:39 PM

            Well my BIL said he doesnt mind to much about the person difference. He said we never know we may end up putting the extra people in the house if it helps people save money.

            My FI is calling him with very detailed questions, and than is going to email him everythign they talked about and have him agree to it.

            Thank you for the sympathy, and the helpful suggestions!

            #16 echo2_62

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              Posted 31 August 2009 - 02:05 PM

              I would agree that you should see if you can hold back 10% of the total fee until your wedding is complete. It does give you some leverage if things aren't quite as agreed upon come the wedding date but it also gives him more reason to make sure that he holds up his end of the bargain too. You could even use his neglect in including various details (like the fact that he lives on the property, distance to the beach etc) before your deposit was paid as reason enough to withhold part of the payment. Either that or when you have to send in your final payments, send two cheques with one of them being post-dated for the day after your wedding so that at least he has it in hand, but you can make an emergency stop-payment if necessary! It's definitely worth the shot.

              I think you've made a good decision to outline all of your questions/concerns and get both verbal AND written confirmation at this point. There's no need for anymore surprises from this guy now that you know how he is handling this.

              As for the walk through the marsh area down to the beach, is there anyway that you can decorate a pathway of some sort for your guests to disguise things a little? I realize you maybe can't hide an entire marsh but perhaps you could lay down some sort of walkway and line it with torches or organza 'rope' to create an atmosphere? I don't know what kind of themes you have so I'm just throwing out one idea!

              I hope that it all works out for you in the end!! Try to just breathe for now, and have an extra glass of wine as well :)

              #17 Lady_Di

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                Posted 31 August 2009 - 03:01 PM

                i'm sorry to hear about your dilemma.

                Remember there's always a silver lining in everything!

                #18 BachataBride

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                  Posted 31 August 2009 - 03:09 PM

                  There is nothing more that I can offer that the girls haven't already said so I just want to give you a hug!

                  All you have to think about is that you are marrying the man of your dreams.The rest is small stuff & will work out!

                  #19 islandbride317

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                    Posted 31 August 2009 - 09:57 PM

                    Originally Posted by SgtPepperette
                    I will add that I talked to a bride that recently had her wedding there. She could not say enough positive things about the property. She was a little creeped out when she found out he lived there, but said he left for the day. The rest of the week she said they never saw him or his wife.

                    I saw a few pictures from her wedding to and they looked amazing.
                    Oh, Melissa -- I am so sorry to hear about this predicament you find yourself in, and so close to your wedding date, but just keep repeating what you said yourself above about how great that other bride's day was and maybe that will give you a little piece of mind.

                    I think after the wedding, you should write him a letter to encourage him to come up with a much clearer booking procedure and an actual contract that is sent out to the couple for their review and is to be signed and returned (with all of the "doesn't matter if it's 8 people or 6 or 4....it's all the same cost" fine print included!!) so that people aren't blind sided at the last minute with this type of nonsense!

                    And you're right -- most people, if they are lucky, only plan one wedding, and although there are a million bridal magazines out there, NO ONE can prepare you for how suspicious and on-top of some vendors you have to be so that you don't get taken for a ride. We are all happy and blissful, and thinking the best of everyone when we start making our plans, and it's a shame if it ever gets to the point that you have to have a team of lawyers review your contract for your venue or anything else!!! I mean, puh-leeze!!!

                    Hopefully, creepy upstairs-dwelling-guy and his wife will make themselves scarce during the time you are there and you, your FI and your guests can focus on the beautiful day/bridal experience that surely awaits you!

                    Stay strong, and TONS OF HUGS TO YOU!

                    #20 vlynnw

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                      Posted 31 August 2009 - 10:05 PM

                      Wow that guy sounds super shady! I'm really sorry you're having to deal with this, I would definitely not being paying for 8 people if only 4 are going to be there, especially if it's not in a contract! You definitely want to get a contract worked out with him so that he doesn't start changing more things on you. I hope everything works out and that he won't be there monitoring your every move on your wedding day, that's weird that he lives upstairs and conveniently left that part out.
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