Jump to content
Sign in to follow this  
Lashawn

Sorry I changed my mind about you being MOH

Recommended Posts

I really like the JR MOH idea as well...

 

I am in the same type of situation. My FI and I have children from previous relationships. I have a 15 year old daughter and he has 2 sons who are 11 and 8. To us, our "family" is one of the most important parts of this whole marriage. We are having our children as the MOH and Best Men. We also each have 3 BM and 3 GM. I have explained to my best friend...that she is my "unspoken" MOH and she totally gets it. She would never want to take away that honor from my daughter. We also know that my best friend needs to sign the register and set up the stagette...obviously because of their ages...but on our programs we will list our children with the most important titles and they will stand right next to us on the day that we marry. I just really couldn't even imagine it any other way.

 

One more thing that I should add is that a DW is somewhat untraditional...therefore even though our bridal parties will be lopsided (5 boys, 4 girls)...it still works out fairly well in an untraditional way. The youngest boy will walk out with the flower girls to guide them in the right direction...the older boy will walk out with the rings (no ring bearer)...and the oldest girl will walk right before I do with my Dad.

 

I really believe that with a DW...anything goes :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Quote:
Originally Posted by emme View Post
I really like the JR MOH idea as well...

I am in the same type of situation. My FI and I have children from previous relationships. I have a 15 year old daughter and he has 2 sons who are 11 and 8. To us, our "family" is one of the most important parts of this whole marriage. We are having our children as the MOH and Best Men. We also each have 3 BM and 3 GM. I have explained to my best friend...that she is my "unspoken" MOH and she totally gets it. She would never want to take away that honor from my daughter. We also know that my best friend needs to sign the register and set up the stagette...obviously because of their ages...but on our programs we will list our children with the most important titles and they will stand right next to us on the day that we marry. I just really couldn't even imagine it any other way.

One more thing that I should add is that a DW is somewhat untraditional...therefore even though our bridal parties will be lopsided (5 boys, 4 girls)...it still works out fairly well in an untraditional way. The youngest boy will walk out with the flower girls to guide them in the right direction...the older boy will walk out with the rings (no ring bearer)...and the oldest girl will walk right before I do with my Dad.

I really believe that with a DW...anything goes :)
That sounds so nice.. I will definitely consider keeping her as my MOH and adding the title "Jr." I want to keep her as one of the most important members of the bridal party, but also honor my friend who helped me during some really difficult times.

Thanks ladies for all of your comments, I really appreciate the input.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I think it is wonderful that you asked her, and I understand how and why things changed. The first thing I would do is check and see if legally she is allowed to be MOH. Can she sign the paper work? Is she old enough? And I do know about Mexico but in Cuba relations to the bride or groom cannot be the witnesses for signatures on documents. If this is the case then you have the perfect reason for having another MOH. I know for me I wanted my sister to sign, but no that can't be. So she is my MOH but I had to ask a friend to be the witness. I hopw this helps a ittle. Good Luck. Also is you want to make her more included, she can always to a reading or participate in a sand ceremony with the two of you.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Quote:
Originally Posted by Lashawn View Post
Hello ladies.. I need some advice. My future hubby has a 14 yr old daughter. I asked her to be my MOH because we initially decided that it would just be us and our parents. Then we decided to send out 50 invites and have 2 people each in our wedding party. Now that I chose 2 of my close girlfriends, I don't want his daughter to be the MOH, but a bridesmaid instead. She is very non chalant about most things.. do you think I can make the switch without hurting anyones feelings?
She may be nonchalant about most things but her father's future wife is about to kick her out of the wedding party....I know you're not doing that, but teenagers are dramatic, and you are about to marry her dad and asking her to be the MOH was a huge honor that you want to take away. Making her a Jr or Co MOH might be ok, but she is still a kid in a lot of respects and her feelings might be hurt more than you realize.... If this other person is your BFF she will have a much easier time understanding this situation than your future step daughter, and take the bridesmaid title more easily.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You can call anyone any title that you'd like..or even have them both walk in together as your moh's and the most important females in your life...there are no rules..do what makes you happy..its your day! and maybe have your daughter in law wear an almost identical dress to your friend..make them both feel amazingly special..because having a friend that said the things she said to you is one in a million, and typically women are more likely to tell you drop your man, you are missing out on all the nights, and everything imaginable to take away from your happiness...so when you find the one genuine sincere friend, you are right to want to cherish them..im saying this from the opposite spectrum of having been the one that was happy for everyone, have spent nights talking to friends, having their bf's actually cry to me that they were driving them crazy, drove to hospitals at the crack of dawn when they gave birth, and have even driven some of my friends mothers to doctors when they werent able to. Now it's my time..and some of those same people arent coming to our wedding..so my point in saying all of this is if you have a true friend then you make her feel appreciated.

They can and should both be important and who says you have to be traditional by having one moh?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

There is no rule for having ONE MOH. You can have two MOHs, your future stepdaughter and your friend.

 

I have two MOH, my sister and my close friend.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Love the Jr MOH / co-MOH idea. It's obvious how much your friend means to you and you should include her! There's no reason you can't have them both in that position of honor!

 

I have 3 girls in my bridal party (2 best friends & a sis-in-law) and basically consider all of them as MOH's, but haven't given anyone a title other than bridesmaid. I love them all so I couldn't just pick one!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady_Di View Post
There is no rule for having ONE MOH. You can have two MOHs, your future stepdaughter and your friend.

I have two MOH, my sister and my close friend.
I agree with Lady Di, why not have two MOH. This way you will not hurt your future stepdaughter's feelings.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Sorry for not agreeing with the masses...I do not think it's ok for you to demote her at all. How sad! This is your future step-daughter. You already asked her and she agreed, period. I feel that it's pretty selfish. To add a Jr title is a slap in the face, she is 14 not 5, she knows what is going on.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
Sign in to follow this  


  • Best Destination Wedding Sponsors



    Facebook Pinterest Google+ Twitter
  • Posts

    • Hi Everyone, So, I was cleaning out my closet and realized that I never sold off my extra wedding OOT bag stuff from our wonderful DW.   46 Daily Spanish for Dummies 30 Pool colored OOT fabric bags - approximately 13in x 13in. They lay flat.  I used them for our wedding and they were perfect for everything we needed to fit in each bag. There’s a slight shade variation in the group; I’m guessing some were cut from a different bolt of fabric.  They are also a little wrinkled from storage and will probably be wrinkled from shipping. I have three additional ones, but they somehow got something on them (likely toddler related). If needed, I can try to wash it out and send those as well. 
    • I’m getting married in six months to my foreign girlfriend. I was advised by a friend that one of the things I need to do before saying I do is to get a prenuptial agreement. Basically it’s supposed to protect my assets and properties in case my relationship with my future wife goes down the drain. I don’t know though if this is an acceptable practice when marrying Kiev ladies. I don’t want to do it if it would be insulting on her end. I need advice on this. Please help me.
    • So we are currently looking for an all inclusive resort for the wedding. We have 60 guests and found all the Dreams resorts as options and all of them gave us a quote and discounted price since it’s off season etc. Resorts in Punta Canta gave us a reasonable price, Dominicus gave us a really good deal then La Romana Resort and Spa gave us their regular price and so hard to negotiate. Will someone tell us how special is this resort that they won’t give us a good discount when all my guests are staying in their resort for 5-8 days. We are bringing $$$ in their resort and not give us a discount?  What is so special with this resort?  Can somebody recommend a beautiful resort? 
    • Hello Everyone, Share your favorite wedding venues. And also give me a Solution. I choose Wedding Venues in mobile al the Anne-marie cottage.
    • Hello Jania! are you bringing any external vendor for your wedding?
  • Topics

×