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I need some advice PLEASE :/ (bridal party)

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So I had planned a huge wedding for about 200 guest here in NY, then I decided that what I really wanted was a small wedding in a beautiful place, so Ive decided to go to DR.

 

The thing is that before this I asked about 8 girls to be my bridesmaids and they all said ofcourse..

 

Right now im planning a wedding for about 20 ppl including the bridal party, would it be wierd to have half of the guest as part of the bridal party?

 

If so, what should I tell the girls who are already supposed to be my bridesmaids?

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First you need to ask yourself how close are you to all 8? I for example had people in my bridesmaids party that honestly, were mainly "fillers". When I realized I wasn't really close to 3 of the girls and was only including them because of family ties they went from bridal party to guest. Now if you are close to them and you wish an intimate party express this to them. You'd be surprised, Some might be relieved because they don't want to incur the expense but didn't know what to say to you.

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I agree basically with Damaris. Be 100% honest. Let them know you've drastically downsized the wedding and you'd love for them to be a guest, but not be a part of the bridal party. Good luck.

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Do you want any bridesmaids at all? Cause what you could do is say that since your plans have changed so much that you guys arent going to do official bridal parties. But you would love to be your unofficial bridesmaids that helped you get ready on your wedding day and things like that. I know a few girls didnt have bridal parties and had unofficial bridesmaids and had a lot of fun with them getting ready.

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thanks a lot girls.. and i also think damaris is right, im going to have to really think about who should be there or not, if anything at the end ill just have the maid of honor and best man, that way none of the girls will feel bad..

 

thanks girls for the advise :)

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I agree I'd re-evaluate. My FI had tons of people that he wanted in the bridal party and I ended up coming up tons of "fillers". It started to spiral out of control and finally we decided that we didn't want a bridal party at all.

 

I'd re-evaluate and determine whats best with the switch.

 

Good luck!

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And I agree w.Danielle..I had the same thing..although I didnt announce the bridal party it was understood amongst my "friends" that if i ever got married they'd be bridesmaids so when we got engages they were all like we are gonna be ur bridesmaid to which i said ofcourse..now we are going away and i said instead of creating a headache, and feeling like an idiot when you find out ur bridal party isnt going to come, i decided on a maid of honor, best man, and told them all that because its such a small group I dont want to have a bridal party..ull be better off...less stress finding dresses, buying dresses and dealing with potential drama

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A dw definately sorts out those that are serious or not.

My own best friend isn't coming to my wedding. She always said that she would be my Moh but as soon as it was announced we were having a dw she has every excuse to not to come.

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