Just wanted to chime in and confirm Tricia's response. I had asked about bringing an ipod and they said, No...bring a cd. So I brought a cd with the cover listing the songs titles, numbered and what they were for (1-Guests Mingling, 2-Wedding party Entrance, 3-Bride entrance, 4-Signing of certificate & kiss, 5-Exit). We confirmed all the songs and what they were for with Lily (WC) at our meeting. She said that an assistant would be playing the music. I'll be honest...I never saw the player or the assistant controlling things. Of course I was in a whirlwind of heaven....but what I will say is that all the songs played like they were supposed to and at a very nice audible level. There are actually little speakers in the grass all the way around the gazebo...so you can hear the songs as you are taken around the walkway by carriage or golfcart. And they would fade out when necessary...not just be abruptly cut off. I had imagined the sound of a record cutting off mid song when I got to the alter....LOL. Not so....the music just faded out very nicely.
The one thing I will say is that the song played fo the signing of certificate and kiss are the same song....they fade it out between the two activities because these activites take very little time. Then as we kissed we heard the champagne bottles pop open in the bac ground and drinks were being passed out right afterwards. We had a toast and then Lily very gently came to the front and asked everyone to follow her out to the walk way for a flower toss. Everyone headed that way and there was an assistant passing out the flower petals (THAT I did notice!). Lily stayed behind with us and lined us up for a picture. Then the exit song started playing and we walked out of the gazebo into a mess of petals....it was great! Looking back at pictures I had the biggest smile I think my face is capable of, and several of my family members said that was such a cool touch. The morale of that story is...if you are wondering about timing....no one really noticed the exit song all that much. We put so much thought into our songs...and I think the most important ones that people really got to hear and enjoy were the first 3. The kiss/signing song and the exit song are not played for long and are faded out around the ceremony.
So based on my experience I would say focus most of your thoughts on the entrance songs and when picking an exit song...pick something that has a great beginning because you exit so fast out of the gazebo and after that you are off to mingle, swim, party, cocktail it up and enjoy the rest of the day!