Posted 17 August 2009 - 04:20 PM
My maid of honor is my cousin (she's practically a sister) and she wants to play games and have some silly fun. You know where when the bride opens the gifts of sexy panties everyone does the ooooo and has a giggle. Shes down with planning 1 big shin dig and making sure it's fun and exciting. <-- Bridal Shower A
My bridesmaid (along with another FSIL and MIL) wants to plan something that only includes a max of 10 people. That would be 8 for family and 2 friends, including themselves. They want it to be more reserved and apparently they don't like any of the games that my cousin has suggested. <-- Bridal Shower B
I don't know what to do now. I really wish they both would have left me out of it because now I almost feel like saying forget it. I don't want my bridesmaids to be pissed at each other over a party for me. That just makes me uncomfortable and I don't think it's necessary.
Now they're talking about throwing me 2 different parties. 1 for family and the other for friends. It's not what I envisioned my bridal party to be like at all. I'm worried that if they go with the 2 party option I won't enjoy either of them as much as I would have if it were an all in one.
Sorry for banging on about something so silly but I'm irritated and stressed out now, when really I shouldn't be involved.
So ladies, hit me with your best advise. Anyone out there in a similar situation?
Posted 17 August 2009 - 04:51 PM
Besides... Your day is quickly approaching so do you even have the time to attend 2 parties?
Posted 17 August 2009 - 11:16 PM
But, not to make things worse for you, if your MIL really wants to throw you a small shower and is putting up a stink, maybe just let her...it will probably be only for a couple of hours right?? And then she'll be off your back....
Don't get me wrong though, I am not an advocate for sacrificing what you want for the sake of others but sometimes you just gotta pick your battles....
Hope this helps??
Posted 17 August 2009 - 11:21 PM
Posted 18 August 2009 - 12:15 AM
If having the one party with everyone there is important, you can always have the early part with everyone, and then the fun stuff after, so those who don't want to partake can bow out.
Totally agreed with autjo - people do get silly with this stuff, and inadvertantly create a stress on you when they shouldn't.
Posted 18 August 2009 - 04:32 PM
In my group of friends...I am the planner...so of course it's no surprise that when my BM's and I started talking about the bridal shower / stagette...I told them exactly what I envisioned. It's nothing fancy or extreme. Just a good time with the friends and family that I adore...playing some cheesy games (when else do you get to do that?!?!)...and having some food and drinks. I can't wait!!
Don't be afraid to tell them what you want to do...because everybody will have a good time as long as you are having a good time!! That's what friendship is all about
Posted 18 August 2009 - 04:39 PM
I had my cousin over today to talk about what they're all planning. Turns out I was panicking for nothing. She went over to my FSIL's place yesterday and met with my FMIL and my bridesmaid to sort things out. It took some time but they have agreed to throw only 1 party!! I'm so excited to find out about that. The rest of the details are being held under wraps but I have said what I would like so fingers crossed it all turns out.
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