Mom's Dress

[egsarah]

I need some advice...

 

My mom and I have a somewhat rocky relationship. It has always been that way but has only gotten worse since I started dating my FI.

 

She is very opinnionated and because of that I haven't included her much in the wedding planning process. If I did it would end up being HER day.

 

Anyways...I spoke to her this past week about her mother of the bride dress. Since we aren't having attendents I was hoping that she would wear one of our wedding colors. Our wedding isn't going to be super formal either so I wanted to make sure that she was comfortable getting a semi formal sun dress instead of something traditional if thats what she prefered.

 

Her response..no joke..."I've been looking at the salvation army and goodwill for a dress for the last couple of weeks". My parents are well off and can more than afford a nice dress. Not only that but I have offered to pay for whatever she chooses. My mom loves "thrift shopping" but I really want her to look nice at the wedding (she is the MOB afterall!!). Whenever she goes shopping there she ends up getting something that doesn't fit right, or has some sort of stain on it.

 

I was able to hold it together at the time but I'm really pissed. How do I ask her to get something presentable?

 

AARG sorry for the rant!

[DGG]

I agree - tell her you are really excited to go dress shopping with her for a MOB dress... Tell her you want her to be like your bridal party and wear your wedding colors - if you can get her excited about it and make her feel special, hopefully she'll get excited about it too..

[kate.com]

What are your wedding colors... and what is your mom's size about?

We can help you with some links to send her. What a PITA. Seriously, people are crazy when it comes to weddings! It'll all be ok.

[Amarillis]

Kate --- perfect idea!!!

 

egsarah.... you need to tell your mom how important it is to you that she match your wedding colours... then send/share your ideas of what would look great on her.

 

As for Kate's idea, you should also let us know approx. what size your mom is.... thus if she is super tiny, she could get away with a fitted style dress... know what i mean?

[egsarah]

Thanks girls you are wonderful!! I did suggest that we shop together last week when we were together (she lives in Mass and I'm in Texas) but we didn't have time. But I think that sending her some dresses I like could be a very good alternative option. The color I was hoping she would wear is a dark vibrant blue. Not quite navy but not light blue either....(not sure if that makes sense) She floats between a street size 8 and 10. Any help is GREATLY appreciated!!

[kate.com]

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Originally Posted by egsarah Thanks girls you are wonderful!! I did suggest that we shop together last week when we were together (she lives in Mass and I'm in Texas) but we didn't have time. But I think that sending her some dresses I like could be a very good alternative option. The color I was hoping she would wear is a dark vibrant blue. Not quite navy but not light blue either....(not sure if that makes sense) She floats between a street size 8 and 10. Any help is GREATLY appreciated!!

My Mom is selling the dress that she wore for my wedding... in case you might be interested it is here:
http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t43758
It is a Davids size 12, unaltered... my mom is a street size 8-10 too. Very pretty and flattering.

[Jo 2010]

I think suggesting styles to her would be a good idea.

 

If you stress that want her to be in the right colour it will be highly unlikely that she will be able to find anything in a thrift store. Just keep telling her how much it means to you to have her look like part of the bridal party...

[Sloan]

My Mom is a bit of a disaster in the style department, so I had my aunties, who have much better style, take her out shopping for wedding/vacay wear. Any friends or family that you trust to take her out in her area?

[Taghan]

Oh man, dress shopping for moms can be very interesting! Luckily I have a great relationship with my mom and she totally wants to wear something that matches our color scheme...now we just have to find one!

[egsarah]

Kate that dress is gorgeous. I'm going to see if she would be interested. I'll let you know in about a week. She is in Spain right now so I'll have to wait till she gets back to see what she thinks.