It's my turn to vent!
Posted 04 August 2009 - 04:32 PM
It all comes down to if someone really wants to be there. If they really want to, they'd find a way and if they really DON'T want to, they'll find any excuse to back out. It's that simple. So you don't want people there who don't want to be there. There is PLENTY of time to make it work financially so I don't want to hear it.
Autjo - FI says that to me all the time about picking your friends.
Our parents are the only family that's coming on either side.
My sister is not coming.
My best friend, who is more like a sister to me than my sister, is coming. (Erin she's booking this week - so is my mom!)
My friend who lost her job the same day as me and got in a car accident 2 weeks ago and had to get a new car is coming.
I'm very lucky to have the awesome friends that I do, and I am so greatful to have found BDW and all of you ladies who are all a part of my support system!
Posted 05 August 2009 - 04:06 PM
I had to just stop stressing about it. My MAID OF HONOR who is my cousin, grew up like sisters, had a baby in March and now decided to not go back to work and is telling me she just can't afford it. That one is hard for me to get over!!!
My FI told me the same thing your friend did...the people that really want to be there will be there...it just sucks when the people you thought would be there, aren't...
Posted 05 August 2009 - 05:04 PM
Posted 05 August 2009 - 10:04 PM
Two things: one, I'm really sorry that you're going through this. That really, really sucks. The other thing is that I want to thank you and the other posters for sharing your experience with guests not coming. As someone who hasn't set a date/location or sent out invites yet, it's a good cautionary tale for me -- a reminder that you can please only some of the people some of the time.
Posted 05 August 2009 - 10:26 PM
Posted 05 August 2009 - 10:36 PM
Posted 06 August 2009 - 10:05 PM
Posted 06 August 2009 - 10:44 PM
Even though it seems insensative to do that she may not have even thought about the issues that arise from staying in a different location. Could you call and talk to her directly to explain the additional costs and why it wouldn't really save money or if she mainly communicates with your mom can your mom discuss it with her in a way that won't ruffle any feathers and make it worse?
I don't know your aunt so maybe she's just one of "those" kinds of people but she may really have no idea what's she's doing is going to create a huge hassle.
Posted 06 August 2009 - 11:04 PM
Posted 09 August 2009 - 11:53 AM
So my aunt finally called me to tell me that she saw the hotel and she might stay there and wanted to know about how far it was from my hotel and how to get there and I was very short and cold with her and told her to ask my TA and mentioned the Day Pass price to her. Well she didn't seem happy about that and what if she only comes for the wedding will she still have to pay and I told her I assumed yes and I told her my whole purpose of having the DW and having it at this resort was so everyone could be together but if it was too much $$$ for her I would totally understand and not be upset if it she didn't come.
Then she says,
I don't know if you heard, but I totalled my car, so it does affect how much we can spend.
So I said,
I don't know if you heard, but I lost my job...(I did the day after I booked the resort)
I really hope they don't come.
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