Posted 01 August 2009 - 11:20 AM
About a month ago i "hired" a destination wedding organizer. I only had to give 50$ upfront because they make their money on the actual booking itself.
Well this was at the VERY beginning (as in - had not found this board yet) and because we want a catholic ceremony i need help finding out WHERE i could even get married. I told her we want a legal, catholic ceremony, on or near a beach or overlooking a beach. So we have been traipsing down the Mexico path. I had found Moon Palace on my own, so the other day, i look at the contract and it states that catholic ceremonies are not considered legal in Mexico!!!!! Well why in the fig newtons would she be recommending all these places in Mexico - when it wont be legal?? When that is one of the first things she asked me!?!?!?
And further more....i sent an email and left her a message asking about it. it took her almost a week to respond (okay - maybe i am exaggerating, i think it was 4 days). and the email says that yes - you have to have both a civil and religious ceremony for it to be legal. and sorry it took so long, but i was waiting to hear back from Mexico.
Well, don't you think these are things that you should find out UP FRONT?? Am I being unreasonable? Our original plan was to get married in January and i don't even have a COUNTRY narrowed down. (although dom rep is looking mighty strong thanks to this forum!)
I feel like i keep sending them suggestions instead of the other way around.
I think that they are really good at what they do, but i think that this might be their first catholic destination wedding (that is also legal). There are a few people that have been recommended to me on this board and i was thinking of switching. I feel kind of bad because i think this person has already done a ton of research and maybe i am just not giving them a fair chance.
arrgggghhh - i don't know. i just needed to vent!
relax, relate, release. smooches!!!
Posted 01 August 2009 - 05:14 PM
I've found that the quickest way to coordinate a wedding in a new location is to spend a lot of time defining exactly what you want, and then send your coordinator there for a week. In that week they should be able to finalize your plans.
Posted 01 August 2009 - 05:41 PM
It sounds like you gave her specific things that you wanted, i.e: legal, Catholic, on, near, overlooking a beach, etc...
If you then found Moon Palace on your own, and found out the legalities of a Catholic wedding on your own before she got back to you...it could be that she is extremely busy and perhaps you are right and this may be the first time she was asked to find out this information. But, I know for myself, I got so excited about planning my wedding I researched everything and gave my TA half the info when I called her the first time.
Is your $50 refundable, or are you willing to eat it to find another TA that you think will serve you better? You have to feel like you are being taken care of. Don't feel bad for switching- she is not your friend - this is a business relationship - you should be doing business with whoever makes you happy.
Posted 01 August 2009 - 05:51 PM
Just don't forget that even though you are thinking about your wedding 24 hours a day, your WC does have other clients and they are doing all the leg-work contacting the resort, which can be a lengthy turn-around when they deal with "island-time"!!
Posted 01 August 2009 - 08:41 PM
yes, she is in the states, but travels often to make sure she is up to date on all the resorts, etc. she actually just got back from mexico! the 50$ is not refundable, but she did do some leg work so i would not begrudge her that. at the end of the day - we can spend 50$ just going out to dinner. ha!
also - just like i do with my clients, if there is something that is taking time - i tell them. i don't just leave them hanging. even a quick "hey - still waiting to hear back from such and such" would have worked. maybe i should just tell her to do that going forward.
i guess what writing this and reading your replies has brought out is that i just don't trust her (yet). totally not her fault or anything! i know that wanting a destination catholic legal ceremony is not easy. she was just all ready to book those places in mexico so now i am just a little gun shy. i am just not sure when she would have realized that it was not legal. plus -i do not think she is an actual wc. from how she is talking - i would have to probably hire one of those (if i wanted) depending on the venue i chose.
i guess i will see how it goes. i feel bad about contacting other WC's but you are all right. Just because she is the first WC i looked at does mean that we are the best fit. I feel so much better!!!
Thank you all so much!!!!
Posted 03 August 2009 - 02:13 PM
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Posted 04 August 2009 - 04:15 PM
mine is a smaller firm that my MOH send me right after i got engaged. keep me posted though!!!! i will be doing some major research and etc before i choose another one.
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