Legal vs. Symbolic Ceremony... :0S Help!
Posted 30 July 2009 - 06:36 AM
So I'm totally torn between doing a legal or symbolic ceremony. Originally, I thought it would be best to go with symbolic, because it was cheaper, and it would avoid the added stress of translation of documents, etc. Then I decided that it just wouldn't feel right, I want it to be legal and real when they say "you may now kiss the bride." Now, I'm back to unsure again, based on something one of the past brides has told me. When she got married, she was told she had to have her ceremony at 5 pm because that's when the judge would be there (same as me, though I really wanted a 4 pm service). Then it turned out the judge didn't turn up on time, so her wedding coordinator performed the ceremony, and the judge showed up during the reception to have them sign papers, which she said took quite some time. The reception is short enough, in my opinion, and then part of it was taken over by the signing of documents!!!! I e-mailed the wedding coordinator to see if this is common, and she just said that "she's hopefully he'll be there in time, but can't guarantee anything." GREAT. So after all that money to translate documents, all the added stress, and being forced to have the ceremony at a certain time, the guy can be late, resulting in the wedding coordinator performing the ceremony, which is technically then a symbolic ceremony, and he can then just show up, and shorten your reception by taking you away from the party and your guests? Arg, I'm so torn! Should I take the chance? Has anyone else heard of this happening?
Posted 30 July 2009 - 08:26 AM
I am having a Catholic wedding so at least I know that the WC CAN'T marry us!
Sorry you are going through all that. Good Luck and I hope it all works out for you!
Posted 30 July 2009 - 11:37 AM
What would have been a piss off, is if he a) never showed up, or he interrupted the ceremony, or c) you had to repeat the ceremony all over again in a lack lusture setting for legal purposes. I am with you when I say, do it once and that's it. In this case, that is what happened so I would be happy.
Posted 30 July 2009 - 12:11 PM
Posted 30 July 2009 - 02:18 PM
that being said - go with what YOU want! if we all changed our plans based on what could possibly go wrong - NONE of us would even have a wedding!!!! So my vote is to take the chance and oh well! if something goes awry - all the better story you have to tell later. In the end, you will still be his wife!
Posted 30 July 2009 - 03:10 PM
Posted 30 July 2009 - 04:19 PM
Follow your heart, we are still going to celebrate our anniversary's on the day we exchange vows in PC in front of friends and family, but just the security of knowing that my day there won't be messed up was enough to help us make our decision.
Good Luck Taratoons!!!!
Posted 30 July 2009 - 04:37 PM
Wow...I just made myself feel better about it! lol Hopefully youll come to peace with your decision
Good luck and let know what you decide!
Posted 30 July 2009 - 05:10 PM
Also in Panama they require bloodwork and I'm not really interested in giving them that.
So we've opted to be married by a Justice of Peace here and a symbolic ceremony there.
Posted 30 July 2009 - 05:25 PM
Anyway, thanks again, and I hope everyone's planning is going well. :0)
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