Please give me your opinions...So mad!
Posted 30 July 2009 - 09:31 AM
Your FI brother will get over it. I have three brothers myself and we don't stay mad at each other for very long.
Posted 30 July 2009 - 10:13 AM
With that being said, I jus think you have to be really honest to your BIL and explain WHY you two are hesitant about them coming. Maybe they dont even realize FIs mom was upset. And even so, this time around its YOUR wedding and about YOU TWO. And you two obviously won't be ignoring FI's family. And it sounds like thats the only thing that was a gliche at BIL's wedding was them being concerned about only themselves and enjoying their time together as a family. Its not like there were drunk riots or arguements. You know? At the end of the day you are all family and if this would end up causing some resentment b/w you guys and BIL&SIL then i would think twice about not letting SIL's parents come. ESP if they end up resenting you WHILE at your wedding, thats not going to bring good vibes at all either.
Posted 30 July 2009 - 10:48 AM
Posted 30 July 2009 - 12:08 PM
-it's a very small intimate wedding and you don't know them that well
-you've already invited all the people you wanted and made arrangements for them
-and be honest about how everyone felt in Jamica
I agree with everyone that it's terribly rude they even asked. Strike that-they didn't even ask, they had someone else ask for them. That should prove they aren't that close and don't need to be at the wedding in the first place.
Sorry the your BIL put you in such an uncomfortable situation, that's very unfair and I hope everything works out!
Posted 30 July 2009 - 02:02 PM
Posted 30 July 2009 - 06:29 PM
I personally don't think you should invite your sister in law's parents. First off, it's totally inappropriate that they would ask to be invited and that your brother would ask you! Second, while these people may now be close to your brother, they are not close to you are they? This is your wedding! Your brother and sister in law already had theirs! Third, I think you are right in thinking that if her parents do come that their may be the potential for some conflict. And this wedding should be a bonding experience for YOUR family!
I would say to just be honest with him, that you're feeling a little weird about being pressured to invite them, and that you're concerned there may be a repeat of the hurt feelings from the last wedding. Perhaps it would be a good idea to remind your brother that he had the opportunity for his wedding and to have who he wanted there, and now it's your turn.
Good luck, I hope everything works out for you!
Posted 30 July 2009 - 06:53 PM
Posted 30 July 2009 - 06:54 PM
Posted 30 July 2009 - 06:57 PM
Sorry to hear you're going through some stressful family stuff...it always sucks! Good luck and I am sure everything will work out for you.
On a better note - we're date twins!! Glad to have found you!
Posted 30 July 2009 - 07:17 PM
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