Please give me your opinions...So mad!
Posted 29 July 2009 - 10:17 PM
I am in need of unbiased opinions regarding a situation I recently found myself in. My fiance and I have been together for almost 8 years and are getting married May 18, 2010. Through out the years his brother (he's 3 years older) has had numerous bad relationships and we always assumed we would be getting married first. Last May (200 he began dating this girl and less than 6 months later they were engaged and just got married 2 weeks ago in Jamaica. My fiance and I met her parents and family for the 1st time not too long ago and they are a very tight knit family. While in Jamaica my fiance's brother spent the entire time with her family and basically ignored his own. It caused my future mother and father in law to get upset and his mom ended up crying over it. To bring everyone closer together my fiance and I decided to have his brother and our sister in law in the wedding and since then things have been really good. Today my fiance gets a call from his brother asking if her parents could come to our wedding because they had been together and her parents wanted to come. My fiance and I had sent out letters/invites to our entire family, friends, and close friends of the family months ago and have about 30 people attending our wedding. Normally I may not have cared but since things ended badly at his brother's wedding with her family being the main cause of it, I really don't want them to come and potentially cause problems at our wedding/week of fun with our guests. I personally think it is extremely rude that they asked my brother in law if they could come and also that he thought it was even appropriate to ask us. I feel like it is my wedding and we invited who we wanted and I don't think it's fair that now we are being put in this position because if we say no, his brother and our sister in law will be mad, but if we say yes they will isolate themselves with her family and make his parents upset. Either way i feel upset so I needed a place to vent. Should I say yes or no? If I say no how do I do this without causing problems. What do you think? Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated.
Posted 29 July 2009 - 10:21 PM
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Posted 29 July 2009 - 11:14 PM
On the other hand, are her parents maybe trying to make up for it and get more involved with your FI's family and family events? (Just playing devil's advocate.... I'd be too.)
Posted 29 July 2009 - 11:34 PM
| Originally Posted by big3n09 |
I would probably be honest in the bast way I could. I would tell them how his own family felt about being ignored at their wedding and that you don't want the drama at your wedding. I would explain the potential possibilty of that happeneing and hopefully he gets it. I agree it is rude that they asked anyway, did you already explain something to your guest about people inviting others?
good luck! Family drama is never nice to have around
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Posted 30 July 2009 - 08:51 AM
I would try to explain that you don't want any hurt feelings but you have invited who you wish to be there since it it your wedding.
Posted 30 July 2009 - 09:15 AM
Posted 30 July 2009 - 09:15 AM
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