My first baby question
Posted 18 July 2009 - 12:02 PM
| Originally Posted by Kristy! |
You guys will appreciate this...
Yesterday I got my first "So when are we going to see babies?" question from a random co-worker. I answered that we don't have any plans for kids, which was met with a face of horror. #1) Do NOT ask newlyweds (or really anyone) this question, most of them don't like it. #2) Why do people look at your like you're an awful person if you don't want to have kids? Grrrrrrrrrr...
Posted 19 July 2009 - 09:05 PM
We were in a relationship for about 6 years before we got engaged and when it happened, people were more like "it's about time" as opposed to "congratulations!" lol. Now, we're not even married and people are already asking when we're having children..
Posted 22 July 2009 - 08:29 PM
Posted 22 July 2009 - 09:57 PM
Oh really? I will? Good to know you have made my life plan for me because apparently the one I set out wasn't good enough. Nothing makes me angrier than people telling me what I think or feel.
Posted 28 July 2009 - 10:34 AM
My FI and I talked about it. I don't want kids and he said he is happy without them but wouldn't mind a child, but as long as he is with me he is happy (god bless him). Sometimes I do feel bad and guilty and think I am depriving him because he would make a great dad and I just sit and cry about it.... but in the end I know he wouldn't be marrying me if he didn't love me and want to be with me, kids or no kids.
I just wish people would mind their own business.....
Posted 28 July 2009 - 11:12 AM
I totally agree that the absolute worst is someone dictating to you how they think you should live your life and they think they know better than you.
I've been living the nightmare of being stuck in a small town where the only women my age at hang out with all have babies. I HATE that they think I'm deprived because I don't have children. Apparently I don't have an opinion on many things because I don't have children, and I also don't have any skills to deal with children because I'm not a mother. I too am a teacher and have been around children for years. I worked in a day care with a group of two year olds and now I'm an elementary school teacher...who says I can't take care of kids just as well as a mother would...it pisses me off when I have to deal with their ignorance.
Having children is such a personal decision and people should really mind their own buisness no matter who they are. No one needs to know the details about why you don't have children yet, all they need to know is that you don't!
Posted 28 July 2009 - 04:45 PM
Or if they call you selfish or tell you that you're going to die alone, you can give them a "Well, I've always felt sorry for those people who can't find fulfillment in their own life so they feel like they need to procreate in order to find happiness. Especially those people who end up having to be subsidized by the government because they gave into the nagging outsiders who pressured them to have kids before they were ready."
Posted 28 July 2009 - 05:12 PM
| Originally Posted by Sapphire723 |
"Oh? You think I should start shooting babies out like grapes, do you? Well, I am SOOO relieved to know that you are planning on buying the diapers and waking up in the middle of the night to feed it. And you've already started a college fund?! How WONDERFUL!"
I worked at a daycare - and am childless - and every one for some reason assumes because you work at a childcare facility, that you have kids. I was asked often if I had any. I said "Yep. I have 12 of them for 9 hours a day, 5 days a week...and then they go home to their parents at night".
Posted 28 July 2009 - 05:48 PM
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