Feet are chillin and getting colder
Posted 17 July 2009 - 02:01 PM
Posted 17 July 2009 - 02:05 PM
Posted 17 July 2009 - 02:49 PM
Posted 17 July 2009 - 06:53 PM
Than You Ladies
Posted 18 July 2009 - 06:10 AM
i think the hard single mum thing does kick in alot.you need to go with your gut feeling.if he has been married before i think he knows what he is getting himself into.he wants to marry you.try not to be too hard on him unless you have reason to.
Posted 18 July 2009 - 08:46 AM
There are so many kind and thoughtful women on this site. Just know that we all have your back no matter what you decide.
Posted 18 July 2009 - 09:49 AM
I hope you can find some time alone to try to think it all through. You deserve the best....and you have lots of support here regardless of which route you choose! Good luck!
Posted 18 July 2009 - 09:55 AM
Remember, you have a lot of people standing behind you
Posted 18 July 2009 - 10:51 AM
Posted 18 July 2009 - 02:57 PM
And also, I know what is like to live somewhere having to deal with the past around every corner. It seems like everyone knows everyone and everyone takes a side and talks about other people behind their back and it's stupid high school drama that should have died a long time ago. And it is so hard to clear your mind and get past the hurt and issues of the past when you are constantly having to be in contact with people who pour salt in the wound and try to start something. Have you considered maybe moving or at the very least working somewhere else for a little while? Sometimes taking yourself out of the everyday situation helps everything to die down and people to move on. It's not running away. And while it is good to just live with what you've been dealt, you shouldn't have to live like that where you are putting up a false front, because that is not healthy for you and it is definitely not a healthy situation for you to be in.
I wish you the best, if you are feeling this freaked out, you and your FI really need to be able to talk about it. Communication is huge, getting married isn't going to instantly make everything better.
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