R.I.P Future Father-in-Law
Posted 06 July 2009 - 11:43 AM
I don't think it's my place to offer much adivce here but I personally would not cancel the wedding. Life must go on and this will be a positive and joyous day in your life, something I'm sure everyone will need. I'm sure your FFIL wouldn't want you to cancel and he'll be there looking down.
That being said, I wish you peace and that this can eventually bring your family closer. I am so very sorry.
Posted 06 July 2009 - 11:49 AM
I would give FI a little time before you bring up anything about canceling the wedding or not...he probably isn't thinking very clear at all right now...but I bet your FFIL would prob not want you to cancel and it is def good for the family to have something positive to look forward to. You would be amazed by the human spirit and how much it can actually endure and still go on! If you need to talk please don't hesitate to PM me.
Posted 06 July 2009 - 11:51 AM
Posted 06 July 2009 - 06:46 PM
My condolences to you and your family.
Posted 06 July 2009 - 06:51 PM
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Posted 12 July 2009 - 05:54 PM
I agree-don't cancel the wedding. Maybe do something special during your ceremony to honor and remember him?
My grandfather passed away 3 weeks after we got engaged. (April 8th) He was so excited about the wedding and it was devastating for me when it happened.
Like your FI my mom had a really rough time coping. I've seen my mom go through a lot of things but nothing like what she's been through the last couple of months. All I can say is sometimes when grieving, people need to do things that seem strange or abnormal. Sometimes it's a way of coming to grips with what's happened and the healing process. Just be patient if your FI seems to experience any of that. Some of the things my mom has initiated or pushed for as a result of my grandfather's death have been really out of character for her but she is making it through ok and it gets a little better each day.
Just be there for him-your love and support right now is the most important thing you can give to help him.
Posted 12 July 2009 - 06:37 PM
As for the wedding... I wouldn't cancel it! As you mentioned it was something that your FI's father was really excited about, and I'm sure that he would still want your wedding to continue. I will be placing a picture of my father in a locket that i will have with me when I walk down the isle, so it's like he's still there to give me away like he always wanted. It would be nice to have some sort of tribute for him there... in whatever way makes you and the family feel would be a nice memory.
Deepest sympathy for everything that you and your family are going through right now.
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