In a tough spot- do I fire a bridesmaid?
Posted 30 June 2009 - 11:19 AM
#1 She is single and going back to school for her Masters degree, so she is very stressed out and busy. I totally get that.
#2 We work together and we barely talk at work. The latest development is I planned an outing with a few other co-workers for tonight. I invited her to which she responded maybe, then decided she couldn't go because she had too much homework (which is ALWAYS her excuse these days). Then I found out she made plans with another co-worker to meet at her house tonight to go!! WTF? She didn't even tell me she changed her mind and is going, and I am the one who organized this thing!!! Now I just found our she is not going because of homework.
I am so confused. I wrote her an e-mail saying, I heard you are going tonight, thanks for telling me considering I am the one who invited you. Then I wrote another one saying never mind I heard you are not going.
#3 I feel like our friendship is fading, and am pretty sure we won't be friends like we used to be after my wedding. So now I am stuck with having a bridesmaid that I probably won't be friends with anymore
Posted 30 June 2009 - 11:30 AM
Posted 30 June 2009 - 11:32 AM
Posted 30 June 2009 - 11:35 AM
But if you truly feel like it's not going anywhere and you don't see mending things or wanting to maintain a close relationship with her in the future, then I wouldn't waste your time with it!
Posted 30 June 2009 - 11:44 AM
Posted 30 June 2009 - 12:48 PM
Posted 30 June 2009 - 12:50 PM
Hope this helps and remember - Dont let anyone ruin your day.
Posted 30 June 2009 - 01:08 PM
I did have a heart to heart with her a few months back and didn't really get anywhere. I asked her if she still wanted to be a bridesmaid and she said YES. So I suppose I will do what Mich said and pretend she is a regular guest in a bridesmaid dress. I think we are alsmot past the point of mending, unfortunately. I did try.
Posted 30 June 2009 - 01:23 PM
Posted 30 June 2009 - 01:25 PM
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