Some people completely lack etiquette...
Posted 26 June 2009 - 01:39 PM
I am throwing my best friend's bridal shower, which is sucking up a good chunk of $ that could be going to my wedding. I am paying for favors, centerpieces, decor, and all the tableware. Of course the stuff I am paying for needs to be ordered at least 3 weeks in advance so I can have it here in time. Well, her lovely future MIL calls me today and explains that their family are not exactly the "RSVP type." That apparently they all just show up without calling. Mind you, 95 invites went out. What the eff do I do? Do I assume all these people will show up? Do I order enough tableware, favors and centerpieces for that many people? What the heck if they don't all show? Then what. I spent about $200 extra on stuff when I could have put that $ toward my wedding. Do I only order enough for the people who RSVP, the the rest are SOL?
Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:15 PM
Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:16 PM
Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:22 PM
| Originally Posted by DanielleNDerek |
i would ask her fmil to call her family then and she can find out if they are going. You shouldnt have to pay extra $ for people not to show up.
Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:31 PM
What you can do is this... Call MIL, say I will prepare space for 8 or 10 of the non-RSVP'ers. Please encourage your family to call me to RSVP, to ensure that seating is available, otherwise we will not have enough chairs -- if she says prepare for all of them, ask if she is willing to subsidize the cost. Be blunt.
Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:42 PM
Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:49 PM
I like Amarillis' suggestion.
Do you have anyone else on his side that's in the bridal party? like does he have a sister or anything that you can designate that as their job. It's pretty crappy if your making the food too, that's a lot of work for people who cant bother to let you know your going.
Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:53 PM
Sorry about that, I'm sure it'll turn out great. And it's for the bride, not her family and I'm sure she'll appreciate all the hard work.
Good luck and let us know how it turns out!
Posted 26 June 2009 - 03:13 PM
I'd say plan on most of those that were invited attending. She has to know them well enough to be a good indication, so err on the side of caution. YES, it sucks big time and isn't fair. But maybe just look at it is as 95 yes rsvp's which is what you may have ended up with anyway had everyone acted like adults and responded the way guests never do, ya know? Some HAVE GOT to miss it, but since you can't know how many....I don't think you have much choice.
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Posted 26 June 2009 - 03:33 PM
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