Are you paying for your bridesmaids dresses?

[tross84]

So glad I found this thread. My FI and I were recently debating on this- I think that we should since we are not paying for their travel there but his thought is, if someone got married in another state we would have to pay to travel there and pay for the dress.

 

I think it is what ever fits in your budget and feels right to you. It's your day!

[NikkiT1021]

That is a good point!  Also, I calculated the costs of my MOH's big extravagant NJ wedding and between the dress, shoes, hair, makeup, hotel room (2 nights), gift, bachelorette party, bridal shower etc....  It added up to over $1500!!!  It was a great wedding, but just because its a DW doesn't mean its any more expensive than an at home wedding.  Plus they get a vacation!
 

Originally Posted by tross84 

So glad I found this thread. My FI and I were recently debating on this- I think that we should since we are not paying for their travel there but his thought is, if someone got married in another state we would have to pay to travel there and pay for the dress.

 

I think it is what ever fits in your budget and feels right to you. It's your day!

 

[lesee]

I am paying for my bridesmaid dresses and accessories and my FI is paying for his groomsmen outfits.

It's the least I can do if they are forking over $$$ to come to my wedding.

[june11bride]

I just finished picking out the BM dresses and ordering them. I mentioned earlier that I never felt amazing about paying for them, but knew I had to becuase they were paying so much to come down. When we were trying on the dresses, one of my sisters said, so you're paying for them, right? I mean, we have to pay soo much to go down. I had been planning on it, but that sort of pissed me off, considering that specific sister is not paying for her trip at all-my dad is. It's not like my wedding is cheap for me. I don't mind paying for them, I just want them to appreciate the fact that I'm paying $265 per dress x 3 and I don't feel like it's being appreciated. After trying them on, they had to leave quickly, and I was standing there, paying for them all, and haven't heard any sort of thanks.

[IRIEGIRL]

i will be paying for their dresses i think it's only fair since they are akready putting up alot of money towards  their trip

[NikkiT1021]

I'm sorry to hear that   They should feel honored that you are willing to do that for them!  They're being very ungrateful right now but hopefully they will realize that eventually.

 

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Originally Posted by june11bride 

I just finished picking out the BM dresses and ordering them. I mentioned earlier that I never felt amazing about paying for them, but knew I had to becuase they were paying so much to come down. When we were trying on the dresses, one of my sisters said, so you're paying for them, right? I mean, we have to pay soo much to go down. I had been planning on it, but that sort of pissed me off, considering that specific sister is not paying for her trip at all-my dad is. It's not like my wedding is cheap for me. I don't mind paying for them, I just want them to appreciate the fact that I'm paying $265 per dress x 3 and I don't feel like it's being appreciated. After trying them on, they had to leave quickly, and I was standing there, paying for them all, and haven't heard any sort of thanks.

 

[KelandJay81]

I am paying for my bridesmaids dresses but I am considering going with the Victoria Secret Multiway dresses that are under $100.00, they have similar dresses for even less at Aqua (Branch of La Vie en Rose, not sure if its in the US). The one's from Aqua will be under $50.00 so it's not so bad.

 

I wan in my bros wedding a couple years ago in Dominican and we paid about $150 for our dresses and I didn't even think twice about it. I think if it's not to pricy it's a nice thank you gift. Plus I am truly hoping that they will wear the mulitway dress again. I bought one and absolutely love it!!!

 

 

 

[MVPHairMakeup]

 

 

Originally Posted by KelandJay81 

 

I am paying for my bridesmaids dresses but I am considering going with the Victoria Secret Multiway dresses that are under $100.00, they have similar dresses for even less at Aqua (Branch of La Vie en Rose, not sure if its in the US). The one's from Aqua will be under $50.00 so it's not so bad.

 

I wan in my bros wedding a couple years ago in Dominican and we paid about $150 for our dresses and I didn't even think twice about it. I think if it's not to pricy it's a nice thank you gift. Plus I am truly hoping that they will wear the mulitway dress again. I bought one and absolutely love it!!!

 

 

 

LOVE those dresses! They are soo comfy and multi functional. They also look great on most shapes.  Some awesome jewelery, hair and make-up and your girls are all set.  Plus! they can use them again, great choice

 

 

[mandys]

I am going to ask my bridesmaids to pay for their dresses. I have 5 girls. I am sure they will all be ok with it. 

[Aphrodite]

I seem to be the odd one out...

 

I have 3 bridesmaids and I am paying for their dresses.  They are $200 each.  This is my gift to them.  I might make them pay for alterations though...haven't decided.

It is actually really only a North American tradition where the bridesmaids pay for their dresses - in other places, like in Europe, the bride pays for the bridesmaid dresses.

 

I have no problem doing this.

I mean, they are spending $1385 to come to our wedding.  Yes, they would be paying for their dresses had the wedding been here, but it would never have accumulated to the amount they are paying to come to our wedding.