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My bridesmaids had all close birthdays so I offered to pay 100$ off their bridesmaid dresses as their gift. I then realized how impossible it is to have everyone agree on a dress. Some of my bridesmaids came from another province and we only had 1 day to shop at one point I was so fed up I became a brideszilla and told them that I didn't need bridesmaid at my wedding! They than miraculously picked out a dress lol the dress was 206$ and I paid 100$ towards it.

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I have myself a budget for around $250ish per girl. Especially cause they're paying and taking time off to come to our wedding. However I found Syper cute dresses from f21 that they'd all wear again for $30. So I put the rest towards their deposits for the trip and bought them cute presents too. I kinda spoiled them. I made them each a pair of beaded Barefoot sandals, a beautiful statement necklace, a John Hardy bracelet, getting ready robes and a mini makeup bag. I'm thinking of making a personalised hanger for them too. Haha

Hi! I'm just wondering how many of you are paying for your bridesmaid's dresses and how many have bridesmaids who are footing the bill? Also - how much do the dresses cost, and how much of a say did your bridesmaids have in your choice? My answers: Dress costs $175, it was chosen by one of my bridesmaids (who tried on 5 that we chose together, and was REALLY excited about this one) Bridesmaids are paying for the dress, I am paying for alterations I'm just wondering if I'm doing the wrong thing here.. should I be paying for the dresses? I know there is probably another thread on here, but I couldn't find one with a poll like this and I would really like to know what people think! Thanks ladies!! :)

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I don't think you should feel bad. I did the same for my girls. I'll be paying for their hair and makeup as well. As much as is an honor to stand in for someone at their wedding, I feel it's much more of an honor that your friends love you so much to be part of your wedding and accompany you on a day that only means something to u and your FI. I def agree with showing them all the appreciation you can if you're able to. Plus they plan the stag and bridal shower for you that they dish out money for as well. It works both ways

this thread is making me feel bad.. i paid for my 6 bridesmaid's dresses which were over 300!  on top of that, got them a gift, plus paying for their makeup on the wedding day.. I figured they were spending so much to come, I should make it as easy as possible for them.  I'm going to be broke after this wedding! 

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We paid for the BM dresses which were just under $200 each. They do not seem to appreciate that we paid for their dresses and 2 out of the 4 expected we pay for them which I think is really rude! 
We paid for our wedding party's attire, gave them gifts let them know 2 years in advance of our wedding. So the people that stood in our wedding didn't pay any extra than a regular guest would have.  No one in our bridal party gave us a card or gift.  Which I know they paid a great deal to travel but at least get us a card we went out of our way to buy attire, shoes, jewelry, monogrammed Champagne flutes,  accessories that they can wear again and again not to mention their welcome bags filled with items Cups, flip flops, sunglasses, etc.... I have always paid for my own bridesmaid dresses and shoes outfits that I will never have a use for again (i.e. satin heels dyed purple with rhinestones) My girls had sundress with straw wedges. Our groomsmen we gave chucks.  If I had to do it again I would only get the basic gifts that i was given for standing i.e. the monogrammed champagne flute. My effort definitely went unappreciated. 
Man, that really sucks!!!

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I have 5 bridesmaids and there are 5 GM. I told my girls I wanted them to have similar dresses, but they could choose it themselves. They are also paying for it themselves. Same with the guys-they are wearing gray pants and white button downs. Hopefully they already own a pair. We are giving them rainbow flip flops, engraved compacts for the girls and monogrammed toiletry bags for the guys, as well as welcome bags , so we don't feel bad at all. We also don't care that much about what they're wearing. :)

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We are paying for the girls dresses and shoes... not sure yet about the guys.  I was originally going to but wanted to get less expensive suits and now after talking to the groomsmen they would rather pay for their own and have a nicer tailored suit.  So we are still figuring that out.  I would like for it to be even for both the GM and BM, so we may pay for part of the suits (same $ for dresses).  For the girls dresses though, I actually got them at target online and they were really affordable.  Also, my mom is paying for my dress so it was easier to buy for the girls.  Total for all 6 BM dresses, 6 shoes, my dress and shoes will be under $1000 which I think is pretty awesome :)

 

I think it's possible to pay for them if you want, but just look at places other than bridal stores for better prices.  I just felt bad asking my friends to spend so much on the travel and also have them buy the dress... and it helped that I found a dress I liked for a great price.

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I ended up paying for my bridesmaids dresses. I ordered them offline and got a good deal about 70 each. and  we made a good amt of money from our wedding social so it helped. Im also considering this part of their gift

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