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Are you paying for your bridesmaids dresses?

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I had 5 bridesmaids and I paid for their dresses. It was from Forever 21 so it didn't cost much at all. It was the exact colour of our wedding - magenta, so it was perfect. My mom sewed thick ivory satin sashes right underneath the bust. They looked great! Didn't want to spend so much on BM dresses that they may not wear again.

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Was it an eBay store? I'm curious to know where it was you got them from. $260 is totally within my price range! :)

Originally Posted by Nino View Post

I'm paying for the girls dresses i got turquoise convertible dresses form eBay. 5 dresses for 260 including shipping from the US to Canada. not too bad and i love that they all look different but its the same dress, and they can also use them after the wedding.... after i got them my mom and one of the bridesmaids order more in different colors..   :)

 

 

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I obviously missed a trick because according to my sister and everyone else, getting the bridesmaids to pay for their dresses is very common. I'm quite lucky because my mum has made my dresses - but I'm paying for the material.

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my 5  bridesmaid dresses were $160 and I put $25 down on each.  Plus i paid an extra $40 on my sister's dress since she ended up getting pregnant and now her dress needs to get bigger!

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Originally Posted by TheWolferts View Post

Haha I am about to stoop to writing on her facebook wall that she is being a terrible friend and owes me money or possibly even call her mom. I know childish, but she doesnt want to act like a grown up and I have tried all of the grown up ways I know to handle it.

 

 

I would just play it like your sad and concerned and not angry to draw her out.."I havn't heard from you. I'm worried if everything is ok, I've been busy working on projects, like the bridesmaids gifts and i just wanted to know if you were still coming so we can plan what were going to do when we arrive" It might help

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Well I know she isnt coming to the wedding at this point and I am just going to keep her BM gift that I also bought before she and another BM canceled. The other BM has been slightly more supportive but didnt come to my shower and didnt even call me the day of the shower. It is amazing how much you learn who are your true friends when planning a wedding. It has kind of shocked me how non-chalant some of my girl friends have been, basically acting like the shower, bachelorette, and wedding are no bigger than canceling a coffee date or dinner.

 

It's also especially rough when someone says they cant afford to come to your wedding, then they invite you to theirs fully expecting you to be there, while at the same time announcing on their Facebook that fantastic vacation they just booked. My fiance says I shouldnt take it personally, but it's kinda hard not to

 

 

Originally Posted by dominiqueamber View Post

 

 

 

I would just play it like your sad and concerned and not angry to draw her out.."I havn't heard from you. I'm worried if everything is ok, I've been busy working on projects, like the bridesmaids gifts and i just wanted to know if you were still coming so we can plan what were going to do when we arrive" It might help

 

 

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I've been on the fence about buying my bridesmaid dresses or not. When I asked all my attendants to be my BM, they knew I was having a DW to begin with, so I feel that they have already committed to the expense of traveling, but by accepting to be my BM they also commit to any additional costs that comes with that title. They certainly had the option to say no and just come as a guest. All my ladies have an important role in my life and feel that paying 50-100 for a dress isn't too much to ask of a BM. I am also letting them pick the style of dress- I'm just telling them the color, material and length. I will be getting each of them pretty wonderful attendant gifts which I have already been brainstorming ideas for. 

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I have 3 bridesmaids and they are all paying for their dresses, it wasnt even really a question, i guess because some of them are married or have been bridesmaids before and for all those weddings bridesmaids bought their own. I do want to get them a really nice gift though, just unsure as to what right now

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