| Originally Posted by Prettyhazardous |
During Pre-marital counseling the pastor said that he needed to mend to relationship with his mother and invite her to the wedding.
As someone who counseled victims of abuse, I have to say I totally disagree with this. Brian has every right not to want to mend his relationship with someon who was so abusive to him. Sometimes when you have a family member who is toxic, it's in the best interest of the person to cut ties with him/her. I'm not saying that's the exact case here, but I think it's up to Brian to make that decision. He needs to heal from the effects of abuse before even considering mending his relationship with his mother (if that's what he choses).
This idea makes me really uncomfy bc I think what if I do something wrong can he just kick me out of his life as well..
Unless you are being abusive to him, I think comparing the two relationships is unjustified. You are not his mother and you did not spend years inflicting physical, emotional and verbal pain on him. It's not like he kicked her out of his life for no reason. He has a very valid reason if he was abused.
I would just take FI's lead on how he wants to handle this. Be supportive of him and his decisions. It sounds like his childhood was pretty rough.