What would you do if you found
Posted 22 June 2009 - 08:54 AM
I would definitely ask him before tossing them, because if he does notice, then it makes you look insecure and a little crazy jealous.
Posted 22 June 2009 - 10:11 AM
In my opinion you have to let him decide - don't throw them out for him.
Posted 22 June 2009 - 10:29 AM
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Posted 22 June 2009 - 10:53 AM
Posted 22 June 2009 - 10:56 AM
Posted 22 June 2009 - 10:57 AM
I do like the idea of putting them IN the trash (or gathering them in a box) and telling FI and letting him actually throw them out or take the trash out....that way he is sort of involved.
If you say he'd never know and doesn't know he has them then just throwing them out is fine too. If he ever did realize they were gone, he'd probably just figured HE threw them out years ago anyway.
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Posted 22 June 2009 - 08:49 PM
I've found old pics/letters. This was EARLY in the relationship when he first moved in, they were boxed in with stuff from his "party" days. He truly didn't realize he had them, and didn't hesitate to not only throw them out, but make a gesture of it to me by throwing them in with some leaves we were burning that day. hahahaha..he said he knows "females" and that he knows that it would probably bug him too so thats why was doing it. He's right. If he wanted to keep stuff from some chick he used to know-there better be a good reason for it. It was dating, not marriage, she's not the mother of his children or something else where he needs images of her to pass on. Theres just no reason for it to me, but I'm notoriously harsh so .....lol.
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Posted 22 June 2009 - 09:07 PM
Most importantly, I wouldn't assume that this is any attempt by your FI to hide something from you or hang on to her in some way. The more likely reason they're still there is because he shoved them there a long time ago so he didn't have to see them (of course he wasn't ready to toss them then) and then forgot all about them. I would just hand them to him, say you found them while cleaning and he should probably sort through whatever is there to decide what he wants to keep. I suspect he'll toss it all. :-)
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