having second thoughts
Posted 19 June 2009 - 01:43 PM
1. the economy is SO bad, I feel guilty, like having a DW where everybody is spending thousands to come is SO wasteful at a time when people should probably be being less frivolous.
2. I wanted a DW, because I thought it would be really fun, and I still think that.. but I am starting to worry about whether or not it will be 'traditional' enough for me. I REALLY want nice food. Not rediculously fancy, but something that people will REALLY enjoy. I also REALLY want people to dance! My FAVORITE part of weddings is the speaches and dancing! I'm really afraid that I'm giving that up.. and I booked a poolside reception because I thought it was the most beautiful and had heard such nice things about it, but now I'm worried about the food (BBQ), and Chandlyn said it ends at 10:30 and that just sounds so early! Esp. if it doesn't start until 6:30.. and dinner and speeches go until 830.
I'm sorry to be so complainy.. I don't know what's gotten into me.. I am not usually a second guessing person.. but I just really want the wedding to have the feel of a 'festive' wedding.. i don't know if that makes sense.. I'm probably worrying about nothing.. but I just REALLY do want to feel like it's special (beyond the obvious special'ness' that just getting MARRIED to the love of my life will bring), and not just a random dinner out with dressed up people.. does this make sense? Anybody else ever feel like this?
Thanks for listening.. I love this forum!
Posted 19 June 2009 - 02:27 PM
Remember that you can have all the parts of a traditional wedding, but with the unbeliveably GORGEOUS setting of Jamacia. I think in the end you will be so happy because your wedding will have more than most...it will have BOTH of those factors!!!
Its completely normal to stress about the food, and the length of the reception and music/dancing/all of those things. Can you pay extra to extend the reception? If not, you can move the party elsewhere (does ROR have a disco) and keep it going all night! You could even party in the pool or hot tub with the guests after hours...I assume its all inclusive so I think people will have an amazing time!!
I agree that with the economy it's tough and you do feel guilty - just remember that many people are taking vacations, little get aways, and spending their money on what they feel is important.....and this is one of those things!
you'll have a great time, i promise!!!!!!!!
Posted 19 June 2009 - 02:38 PM
Posted 19 June 2009 - 02:40 PM
Posted 19 June 2009 - 02:53 PM
A DW is such a unique and wonderful experience. We all have had doubts at one time or another. Trust us, you won't regret. Oh, and our food was delicious.
Posted 19 June 2009 - 04:13 PM
In terms of 2nd guessing your decision, trust me, thats quite natural since you're not going the "traditional" route of having a wedding at home.
Like everyone has said, a DW can be just as amazing & as traditional as having your wedding at home. To me a DW is special in itself. Having family/friends travel with you to a tropical island where they take part in your wedding! How can you beat that?
I think people enjoy DW's in general because its something different. Prior to my own wedding, most of my family & friends, including myself & DH had never been to a DW. We have memories of the entire weekend & days leading up to the wedding, that will last all of us a lifetime.
If you feel that you want to add things to make your wedding extra special then you can always add little details. Little touches like having a steel drum band, if its in your budget & the idea of a poolside reception is unique in itself!
And don't worry about dancing, if the poolside reception ends at 10:30, you can go into the disco & party until 2am!!!!
And I can tell you, I just came back from my 2nd trip to ROR and while the food was good this time around, it was much better at my wedding! All of my guests who traveled with us this time, also came to the wedding & they agreed.
So try not to worry about this too much. Your wedding will be wonderful!!!
Posted 19 June 2009 - 07:51 PM
Just thinking back, I don't really remember most any wedding receptions going more than 4-5 hours so this is actually pretty traditional? The party usually goes somewhere else if people still want to party!
Posted 19 June 2009 - 10:49 PM
Posted 20 June 2009 - 12:51 AM
Posted 20 June 2009 - 10:52 AM
Good luck with the planning!
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