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#11 Jacqueline

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    Posted 18 June 2009 - 01:58 PM

    I think it's a good idea to register so it helps people know what to get you and so you dont get 3 of the same thing. I registered and still got duplicate gifts so it really helps. If you feel funny, just do a small registry :o) Good luck!

    #12 *Karla*

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      Posted 18 June 2009 - 02:46 PM

      I debated with this too...After reading many of the threads on this topic, I decided to register. I am not advertising it, but when people ask, I am able to tell them. Not everyone you invite will be abe to attend, but they may still want to send a gift. Better to get something you want, then something random. Bed, Bath, and Beyond is a great place to register, b/c they always send out 20% off coupons.

      Also, someone will probably want to throw you a shower. It is just easier to be registered. I did not do a big registry, (no china) but it is there.

      #13 Taghan

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        Posted 18 June 2009 - 02:58 PM

        Thanks ladies! I think I'll probably still register just in case. We'll probably do a honeymoon registry since we already have an established house together.

        #14 Vonnie6

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          Posted 19 June 2009 - 04:45 AM

          for me and my fiancee, marriage is not just about romance, but also about a promise, agreement and a legality. what i mean is if we both want it to be legal, we do not see why we have to do it twice and spend double the money especially when it cost £10k for 1 wedding (for the style i want). as i said before, we are brought up in a traditional 'up tight' manner and believe marriage comes before living together and having children. but hey, it is different for different people and i am sorry if i sounded harsh.

          #15 Mystic

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            Posted 19 June 2009 - 09:43 AM

            Quote:
            Originally Posted by Vonnie6
            for me and my fiancee, marriage is not just about romance, but also about a promise, agreement and a legality. what i mean is if we both want it to be legal, we do not see why we have to do it twice and spend double the money especially when it cost £10k for 1 wedding (for the style i want). as i said before, we are brought up in a traditional 'up tight' manner and believe marriage comes before living together and having children. but hey, it is different for different people and i am sorry if i sounded harsh.
            I think you are talking about a different kind of registering. We are talking about a gift registry at a specific store. You go to the store and pick out things you want or need for your home to make it easier for your guests to choose a gift for you. It's very common to do this, at least in the U.S., and most guests appreciate it because they don't have to spend time wondering what to get you. Some of us are wondering if we should do a registry since our guests are already spending so much money just to get to the wedding. We don't want them to think we expect a gift from them, too.

            #16 jamaicabride10

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              Posted 19 June 2009 - 10:04 AM

              I want to do a registry as we already have a house & everything we need, so we really do not want tonnes of stuff with nowhere to put it. It is quite uncommon to do this over here (Ireland/England), so I know NO ONE will ask where we are registered!! I don't know how to let people know without sounding like we expect gifts! I definitely don't want to put it on the invitation and I think telling everyone by WOM is a bit like 'asking' too....any thoughts??
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              #17 jetsbride

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                Posted 19 June 2009 - 10:54 AM

                We are going to register for the same reason as most others. People who can not make the trip want to still get us a gift as well as for the shower. If you are going to get gifts it might as well be something you want!

                #18 Scott-Pierre

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                  Posted 21 June 2009 - 10:51 PM

                  We decided to register as well. Several people had asked us about, that were not able to make it to the wedding. Rather than receive random stuff that we don't need/can't return we thought it would be easier to let others know what we could use. We have been living together for 3 yrs, so its not like we are starting from scratch. We also made it clear that if people were coming to the wedding, we do NOT want them to buy us gifts.

                  #19 Scott-Pierre

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                    Posted 21 June 2009 - 10:52 PM

                    Oh and I forgot to mention, registering with the FI was torture! He was not into it at all and I was ticked off! We ended up arguing by the end of it! My advice: take a girlfriend with you! You will end up picking out all of the stuff anyway, without the headache!

                    #20 KimmyG

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                      Posted 21 June 2009 - 11:08 PM

                      If you don't register, are you more likely to receive cash gifts or random gifts you can't return??




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