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How to tell guests it's NOT an open bar...?

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I think it is reasonable but could become tacky depending on how you handle it. My ideas might be tacky but I will just throw it out there.

Make up tickets for a free drink (give them however many) and have the waiter collect them when they order a drink. Once they use them all start their own tab. Similar to that you could make a note that says something about how you really appreciate them being there and want them to enjoy your wedding but also remember it and have rip off vouchers at the bottem. Maybe to kind of turn the focus off the money and onto being here to make memories that they won't drink away. You are on vacation for more then one day have this be your recooperating day.

Plan a REALLY early morning excursion for everyone.... JK, you won't want to wake up either.

I like the idea of beer and wine, I was thinking of doing something similar.

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I like the idea of limiting the type of drinks for a certain amount of time. It sounds like you're having a fun celebration dinner (no dancing) so the alcohol doesn't have to flow ALL night. Also, how far away is the restaurant from the hotel? Are you providing transportation? I know several people that have limited drinks b/c of the safety issue, and not for financial reasons.

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Everything I would have said was already said. I will second not feeling obligated to host a alcoholic binge fest just because some tactless uninvitees say they think it's tacky. I think expecting to be able to drink yourself stupid at a wedding is tacky; that is not what you're there for. I also think 4 drinks is quite generous and, honestly, may become equivalent in price if not more so I may look into the unlimited beer/wine option or the timed bar and compare the pricing. Finally, you must consider who you are inviting; are they beer/wine drinkers? If not, maybe the other two options are ideal.

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To answer your question, I think some people's suggestions were great where you'd put in the invitation something like "join us for dinner and have 4 drinks on us!" or something to that effect where it clearly states what you are paying for. You don't need to go into "we're poor so we can only give you 4 drinks" type of deal-- not that you would say it that bluntly, but you don't have to justify or explain anything to anyone. A statement like the former gives adequate information of what they should expect as far as alcohol goes.

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