Save the Dates with invitations?

beachgirl@heart · June 11, 2009

So here's the situation. We are setting up a website with all the information about the Mexico ceremony (Excellence Riviera Cancun, April 30, 2010). Our intent is to send out a save the date, with a separate note directing guests to our website for information on travel, accommodations, etc as well as to RSVP there. We're thinking this is a good approach because:

1. all of our guests are web savvy

2. it's convenient

3. it's "Green" (saves on paper)

4. it seems redundant to send a formal invitation several months later with the same information

Is it tacky to do it this way? My mom wanted to send invitations but when I told her of our idea, she said we could just send out announcements after the wedding.

That said, if we proceed in this fashion, would it be acceptable to send announcements with the AHR information? And, how much notice should we give for the AHR b/c that will require a trip and hotel reservations for people as well? There are also some people to whom we probably will not extend an invitation to the wedding but would like to see stateside when we return. We don't have a clue as to when or where that will take place and probably won't until just before the wedding. (It's announced on the website as TBD, but stay tuned...)

Any thoughts or feedback on this is very much welcomed....

npaterson · June 11, 2009

Personally I don't think it is tacky at all. It's your wedding, you should do as you wish. As far as the announcements for your AHR. I would just try to send them out as soon as you know when/where. How soon after you come back were you planning on having your AHR?

I kind of had a similar situation. We have some people that are coming to the destination, but then we have some people that we do not know if they are coming to the destination or just the AHR. We have decided that we are going to send them both invites. We have designed invites that will be the same invite for both the destination and the announcements, but different wording for each.

Gr8ful · June 11, 2009

A lot of people are doing it this way -- I was going to, but as all your group is web-savvy, not all of mine are. My cousin is actually doing this -- through the knot and through evite. I think it is a great idea.

As with anything, as much advanced notice you can give people, the more time they have to plan. I'm with npaterson, as soon as you have a firm date, let your guests know!

*tanga* · June 13, 2009

I did save the dates with directions to our website. I will still do a formal invitation as although my friends and family are "net savvy" - there is informaion that I want them to take with them to our destination (maps etc) as opposed to stuff that needs to be organised prior to the event like accommodation.

amyrot · June 15, 2009

I think your plan sounds ok! I am doing something similar but I think I will send out invitations as well- we are undecided yet on sending out the invitation to 'everyone' that will be invited to the AHR- which will be like 200 people- which we KNOW only maybe 25-30 people will go to the DW. So...I don't know whether or not to send the invitation to everyone or just immediate family!