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Does your FI/DH know how much you weigh?

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#11 YaelM


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    Posted 10 June 2009 - 01:13 PM

    DH doesnt know my actual weight - he knows the range. I think if he knew my number he would be shocked haha i think he thinks i weigh like 10 pounds less than i actually do - ill just keep it that way :)

    #12 OROBride1008

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      Posted 10 June 2009 - 01:13 PM

      My FI knows how much I weigh. He is very tall and thin and I am 5'10'' and very broad. I always played sports and worked out so I have always been muscular. When i first stepped on the scale and told him, he was very supportive. Every week that I weigh in for the BDW season 6 i get excited telling him how much I have lost. We went this weekend and he helped me pick out some new clothes since mine were to big. He also seems to think that now that I am getting skinny, i am going to leave him for someone else, but he is just kidding...lol

      He will love you if he knows the number or not. The number doesn't change anything.

      #13 Tropical Imaging

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        Posted 10 June 2009 - 02:16 PM

        Instead of using your start/end weight as the challenge why not set goals based on working out a certain number of times a week, limiting pasta or bread to 2 servings a day or eating out only a few times a week and cooking together something healthy. You could even set a challenge that each of you needs to find and prepare the other a healthy low cal/small portion meal once a week. The one who has met those quantifiable goals the most wins irregardless of the "weight lost"

        Comparing weight loss isn't a good goal as everyone loses weight differently, especially between men and women. If you are putting strength training in your workout as well, you could be gaining weight but loosing inches (In the past 6 months since increasing my workouts, I have only lost 6 lbs, but I have lost 3 inches in each of my thighs and 3-4 inches in my waist, most people think I have lost 15 lbs). There are too many variables. But something you both can be equal on is the amount of time spent in the gym, the amount of time spent out of restaurants and the amount of time spent finding healthy options. It also helps bring you closer together, working together for each other to be healthy and strong vs competition on being skinny. Seriously, you could starve yourself and be thin and win the challenge, but your body is what suffers.

        I would suggest that if you set those kind of goals, the weight/inches will come off. And you may emphasize taking measurements/vs weight to add to a measuring goal if you really need a measurement variable.

        I've been married 14 years, have been everything from a size 8 (I'm 5'10, swimmers build) to a size 18 right after having kids. Hubby has no clue what I weigh and could care less, but he does care a lot about us being healthy. He never complains about my time spent at the gym or the money spent on personal training, and no matter what my size, he always makes me feel like I am the most amazing woman ever. He is thrilled when we try new healthy meals and is supportive when I don't stock the house with sodas/chips/ice cream etc.

        Get off the crazy diet wheel and just work together to be healthy and strong. Especially later in your life when you have kids healthy habits are a great practice to be in.


        #14 ~*petals*~

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          Posted 10 June 2009 - 02:16 PM

          He knows how much I weigh.

          He's a personal trainer as his side job so we're pretty open about that stuff. When I'm going hardcore with my exercise and diet, he gives encouragement, but he really likes the curves too so he's never been critical when I put on a few pounds either.

          #15 Spazz

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            Posted 10 June 2009 - 02:19 PM

            It's never been an issue between my hubby and I. I'm sure he could guess what I weigh and vice versa. I don't think either of us have ever actually thought about what the other weighs or cared, to be honest.

            #16 jajajaja

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              Posted 10 June 2009 - 02:25 PM

              My DH doesn't know my weight and I don't plan on sharing it either! Thankfully he has never asked because I like to believe he doesn't care. I'm in denial right now so I don't even really want to admit to myself my weight.

              Don't feel bad- you don't have to share EVERYTHING with your significant other. Keeping your weight secret is not really a "secret." Some things can be private!

              Personally, I don't think your FI really has a reason to be mad at you for not sharing your weight. I mean, he may feel like you don't trust him or you're embarrassed to share with him so I can see how that can be upsetting to him. But "mad?" I don't think that's something to get angry over. If the # aspect throws you off, maybe compare BMI. Or set small goals to help you achieve like working out x days, dietary goals, etc.

              Good luck on your quest to become healthier. I think having a partner in the journey will help you!
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              #17 Kristy!


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                Posted 10 June 2009 - 02:27 PM

                DH (that's the first time I'm writing that instead of FI!) definitely knows what I weigh. We get on the scale in front of each other all the time. I'm about 5 pounds away from my all-time heaviest right now, so obviously I'm not happy about that, but knowing that he knows motivates me. (You would think needing to squeeze into a bridesmaid dress in 6 weeks would do it, EEK!)

                #18 jk1101

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                  Posted 10 June 2009 - 02:29 PM

                  I think I'm very sensitive about this because I know he had issues with is ex getting very heavy, as well as his own weight problems.

                  In my family the "number" has always been very private, and I just don't think he needs to know, especially when I'm pretty much the same weight as when I met him.

                  I was really just curious to see how it was with other couples.

                  #19 FoxyBride

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                    Posted 10 June 2009 - 02:30 PM

                    My FI knows but since he literally weights twice as much as me (he's also a foot taller) it doesn't really matter. I'm a "skinny fat girl" as I've said in my 30 day shread thread so he think I'm crazy anytime I mention anything about working out. Plus, he obssessed with me having more booty! LOL

                    #20 Jacqueline

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                      Posted 10 June 2009 - 02:32 PM

                      TBH I never asked him how much he weighs, nor has he ever asked me b/c it never came up or care i guess.
                      Once in a blue he'll mention that maybe he lost or gained some lbs (he goes to gym and weighs himself, I do not) but that's it.

                      It's a shame your FI feels that way, that he can't go to pool parties or be seen in bathing suit :o( Life's too short for that tell him!

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