| Originally Posted by echo2_62 |
I like your comment that all bets are off! So good to know that I'm not the only one who didn't want to do any sort of seating arrangement. I think the only concept I had of how tables etc would be set up is in my head! I want to request that tables only seat 8 people because I find anymore than that is typically too crowded. And even that way we'll only have five tables max based on the numbers right now so it's no big deal.
It's nice of you to consider the BMn's girlfriend who won't know many people. That always seems to be a tricky part when it comes to seating for sure.
And you can laugh at my concept of decorations to bring. I have chair sashes (that I got used for a wicked price and more than double the number I need so we're using them for ANYthing and EVERYthing - including my stagette!), strings of purple lights (like christmas lights but were on sale at halloween), and waterproof LED lights with floral gelly to put in some type of glass or vase TBD when I get to the resort. Aaaaaand that's it! Aside from those couple things, I don't have anything else and I'm totally okay with it.
I think that if you've got people confirmed to go, then just make up your brochure with Vistaprint about a month before the wedding and since they only take a week or two for delivery then at least all your design and everything will be ready to go and you just have to click on the Order button. That might help take some of the stress out of it being more last minute?!
I think that one photo album per couple is totally fine, especially since you're going to have your pretty placecards to put out still! I'd done the same thing with buying some of my OOT bag items. I bought about 34 (weird # I know) of some things because if we ended up with our max. no. of guests at around 50 then I could do one per couple and one per single, OR if we ended up with 34 or less guests then everyone could have their own! It's seemed to work pretty well so go for it!
As for etiquette - I think that people who RSVP late (or not at all) and then still book and except all the same treatment are the ones breaking etiquette rules, not you! I mean, you could still make a small OOT bag for them but for items like mugs or towels that need to be ordered ahead of time then too bad! You have RSVP deadlines for a reason!
I'm not bringing any decorations either - I figure, it's a beach and tropical setting, it will look pretty enough.
My OOT bags will have 1 of everything - if its a couple, 1 bag per couple - I'm not made of money and a married couple doesn't need 2 things unless I do stadium cups or something like that.
My job is ending in 2-3 weeks and then i can focus on stuff - Erin, you mentioned a packing list and i was like OMG I haven't even thought of that...FI is going to help me with the playlists, but unless I sit him down and make him do it with me he won't do it and he's a "do things the night before" kind of guy....and I need to find some excursions for us to do.