April 2010 Brides
Posted 14 July 2009 - 01:54 PM
Posted 14 July 2009 - 02:06 PM
I just sent my STDs on Saturday and people have already started to recieve them yesterday, wow. Now I have to play the waiting game to see if anyone starts booking. I'm sure I'll be on the same boat as you, Michelle and Christina. It can't be helped, I have information listed on my STD, website and will be sending reminder notices to have people start booking. Hopefully people won't wait until last minute. gRr!
Welcome amcarter! I love your BYF idea. My STD didn't have an rsvp date or anything but instead a preliminary "will you please rsvp on our wedding website to give us a heads up" for a head count. I hope your BYF will get your guests off their butts and book their flights!
Some of my guests are already planning to book their own travel, not through my TA. I just hope that I won't have the same problem with my TA not being able to help my guests with their flights, that's their job isn't it?
A DW shouldn't be stressful at all, but there are times I'd like to rip my hair out!
Posted 15 July 2009 - 09:36 AM
I made my STD's and worked very hard on them. I gave them out to everyone. Even people I know who cannot go because I did not want to exclude anyone. That was approx almost 4 weeks ago. I gave one to FI's mom. She has not spoke to us since then. She is acting like we are the ones that are in the wrong. It is her decision not to go and we are the bad guys apparantly. FI was wondering if there is anyone else out there with a similar situation where parents refuse to go for no good reason? He is really hurt by this. Me.. I could care less since their being so mean about it all. I only care for his sake. I'm sick of our wedding being a taboo topic that we cannot talk about when we are around his parents.
Sorry for the rant. I'm just very frustrated with the new "in-laws". Looks like rough road ahead with them I think.
Posted 15 July 2009 - 01:18 PM
also, tonya, to get the bridge shot we had to play our own real-life game of frogger. we'd jump into traffic when no one was coming and jump back off. this was especially difficult for the kissing pictures because we couldn't look to see if someone was going to run over our photog, but it looks like they turned out great anyway!
so it looks like all of our planning/weddings follow the "same sh*t different bucket" mentality. in the spirit of comiserating, the following is a list of the set backs and obstacles we have had:
-FI's dad is extremely overweight.. will prob 2 plane seats
-FI's mom had her right leg amputated below the knee 3 weeks ago
-In order for all of our family to go my parents are paying for 18 people
-FI's daughter is not allowed to go to our wedding because her mom won't permit it
it sucks that we all have these things to deal with and sometimes people just aren't happy with what you're planning. the thing is, it's YOUR wedding.. don't you hear stories all the time about brides to be or married women who didn't enjoy their weddings or the planning because they were too busy worrying about everyone else? we definitely don't want to fall into that group! just think.. it's their loss that they want to try to mess up something that could easily be the time of their lives!!
thank goodness that we all have BDW so we can vent to people we know will understand. as much as i love my family and friends, there are a lot of times when they just don't get it!!
Posted 15 July 2009 - 02:52 PM
I am getting married on April 27th, 2010 at the Iberostar Laguna Azul. We booked at the beginning of June and so far have 50 friends and family members booked to join us. One of my best friends is also getting married the same week at the same resort and she has about 40 booked, so there with definitely be a lot of familiar faces!
We haven't sent out of invites yet - I have a huge family and my fiance is a social butterfly lol so word-of-mouth was all it took. We do plan on sending out invites in the next couple months.
The only let-down so far has been that our tour operator is only allowing 50 guests to book at our group rate price, so I know a few people have called since we hit 50 and have decided not to book since it is almost $300 more Not much we can do though.
I have my dress but that's as far as we have gone. I have an idea for bridesmaid dresses, flowers, welcome bags and favours, but feel like it's too soon to make those decisions in case I see something in a few months I like better! We have booked out photographer as well, he is a friend who has offered to photograph our wedding if we paid his way. Good deal!
It's fun hearing of the trials and tribulations of other destination brides, all going through all the same things as us! I'm glad to be here
Posted 15 July 2009 - 07:53 PM
ndinn - I'm sorry you're having such a rough time with the future in-laws. It sucks how some people aren't happy unless they aren't in control and that they are hurting their son in the process.
Christina - I wish I could stop caring! I think if I was working it would be easier, but I'm home and think about wedding planning and am on BDW alot, I think it makes me focus on it more!
Posted 16 July 2009 - 01:40 PM
michele, i'm still keeping my fingers crossed for you that stuff starts happening soon. sometimes i make myself WAY too anxious on here so i have to find non-wedding threads to read to distract me. sometimes i honestly don't know how i'm going to make it 9 1/2 more months!!
Posted 16 July 2009 - 02:17 PM
Posted 16 July 2009 - 03:36 PM
My fiance was actually the one who really encouraged a destination wedding, and especially the cruise wedding (it saves a lot of money, he has been wanting to go on a cruise, and requires less stress planning (kind of, haha)).
When we got engaged in March, we knew we were going to do a cruise wedding. After researching all kinds of options and travel agents we finally found someone to help us. We also decided we would rather do the wedding on the beach than on the cruise ship. Then we picked a cruise that was more 'friendly' for our guests (shorter, over the weekend, from a relatively close location) which limited our options for beach weddings. Finally we figured out a way to have our cruise and our beach wedding ceremony too (although we may have had to sacrifice a reception since we are not using Carnival's wedding planners...I am working on that).
Within that month or 6 weeks we found a travel agent, booked our cruise, and made our own save the date magnets (I will have to post a picture once I figure out how to) with the 'engagement pictures' my mom took of us at our local beach.
It took about a month of spreading the news, making the website, mailing out the magnets with a friendly letter, but then people started booking like crazy. Right now we have 41 cabins booked and 96 people coming. This is way more than I expected and kind of makes arranging the wedding a little more difficult (the package was designed for 10 people and I told her we would probably have 40 people). Oops. Oh well, I am sure we will have a blast on the cruise with so many people and I will have to just work on all the details.
My fiance and I are hoping to have an at home pre-party as well where we can go over any final details and so on. However, we still have to plan that one.
I have been loving thinking about putting together OOT bags and this site has been awesome for getting ideas for that. I am still trying to figure out my color scheme though so I can't really purchase anything.
I am excited to have so many people to share ideas with!
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