April 2010 Brides

[MayBride2010]

ladies you should consider yourselves lucky. Our AHR was supposed to be done as cheaply as possible (and I know that sounds horrible) but when all is said and done it will have cost us right around $15 000.00. My mom is not letting me cheap out on anything. I am working 2 jobs and its kind of killing me. I can't wait for it to be over!!

[taylorwd]

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Originally Posted by MayBride2010 ladies you should consider yourselves lucky. Our AHR was supposed to be done as cheaply as possible (and I know that sounds horrible) but when all is said and done it will have cost us right around $15 000.00. My mom is not letting me cheap out on anything. I am working 2 jobs and its kind of killing me. I can't wait for it to be over!!

WOW that is a lot for an AHR. Swaaaaanky!!

[hoyt75]

GOOD-NESS!!!! That is a ton of money for an AHR! I can only imagine what you're wedding looked like. YIKES!

 

Michele - I really like your wedding photos. The sunset ones are my favorite So pretty

[hoyt75]

Okay ladies, I know we’re all busy and what-not, but I’m looking for a little feedback and some suggestions.

 

On our honeymoon, my wonderful hubby came up with idea that we’ve dubbed as “the love box”. We would have a box and jot down little notes with what we love about each other. Nothing in particular; big things, little things, or just things that make us smile about the other person. The idea is that if we ever got into a rough spot we would then open the box and read the little notes containing the reasons for our love. It would serve as a reminder as to why we got married in the first place, and how our love has blossomed and flourished over the years. Now it would have to be a really rough spot, not just that we bickered one night, I mean rough/hard/we need help kind of thing. There could be no early peaking into the box, only positive comments allowed, and I’m thinking it would more of a small wooden box with a slot on the top and a fake heart lock on it w/ a key taped to the bottom… something along that line.

 

DH has set a goal that he wants us to make it to our 50th anniversary. We’ve had problems in the past, as do we all at one point or another, but we’ve worked through them and he’s thinking that this would serve as a good reminder when needed.

 

What do you think? Have you ever heard of or seen such a thing?

[jk1101]

I LOVE the idea of a Love box. Maybe instead of only opening it when you have a problem, you can open it on special occasions too, so you can remind each other how much you love each other in the good times too.

 

If we make it to 50 years we will be 90 and 91 years old....OMG LOL!!!!

[taylorwd]

Love your idea!! I agree it could be used in good times or bad. Special occasions might be a good time also to take a peek.

 

DH and I did something very similar to this. A few years ago we were having a really hard time. Like you said, not just bickering, but working through some really difficult things. We weren't connecting, we weren't communicating well, we just weren't us. We decided that no matter what had happened that day, or how angry/sad we might be when we went to bed, we would hold each other and tell the other one reason that we loved them. Something big or small, it didn't matter what we said, only that we found something positive to focus our love on. This was a nightly ritual for us for a year, and let me tell you, it worked miracles! It's a big reason we made it through that time. Things got better and we found that we weren't doing it on a nightly basis anymore. It wasn't a conscious decision we made to stop doing it, we just suddenly found it wasn't necessary anymore.

 

Wow, I had forgotten we did this until you brought this up. Thank you for reminding me of this!

[echo2_62]

I haven't ever heard of that myself but I think it's a really good idea!! And just to expand on what the other girls suggested, you could always pull out a single memory each on an anniversary or some other special occasion, and then save the whole lot of the others for the bad times when you really need the extra reminders And no one says you can't put them back in the box once you've read the notes either!

 

And Taylor, I have to say that your comments about how you and hubby did that for an entire year to work through your problems really hit me today. I know I'd shared with most of you the problems I was having before our wedding around FI's bachelor party disaster (which I could barely bring myself to admit nearly ended our wedding plans) and while I have absolutely zero regrets in marrying him, I'm still having huge difficulties dealing with the issues that event created especially related to my trusting him in some aspects. What you said just seemed to make so much sense to me because deep down I know that despite the really stupid decisions that were made and how hurt or angry I feel, there are a million more reasons that I love him in spite of all that... and I really need to make sure I focus on those things every day!!! Thank you so, so much!!

 

And I must add (on a positive last note!) that I love your pictures Michele & Taylor!! I didn't get any sorts of those shots so I'm completely jealous that you both look so gorgeous!

[caribbeanLover]

I love love that idea, I think i'm going to steal it!!!!

like you guys we had our problems too, and not just bickering like you 2, we stop talking to each other, we were more room mates then in a relationship. I dont even know how we got back to where we are now, but we did. I think every once in awhile (not just in bad times) to open the memory box of love!!!

I'll bring it up over dinner tonight see what DH has to say about it!!

especially with the stresses of buying a house, I have a feeling we'll need it lol!!!

Although I've very surpised( not sure why after planning a wedding) we're doing really good, not taking any frustrations on each other, just talking it out.Marriage life is definitely treating us real good lol.

 

Life is definitely been a world spin for us, We're going to look at a house we love tomorrow, and hopefully put an offer on it. Then Thursay is my surgery, which will just be a day thing, I get to come home that evening, but will be off my feet for a week, which means I probably wont be able to make it for the house inspecation if we go that far.

 

Thank you guys for all your support for the surgery and house hunting, you guys are just so amazing!!! again can't stress that fact in how happy I am to have found you guys, a lot of us understand each other in a lot of aspacts in our lives, as much close friends and family we all might have, no one really understands as much as each other since we're all going through it or have renetly gone through it.

Keep you all posted on how it goes!!!

 

Still excited to hear about how everyones AHR is in June.

I booked our hall,I was given a few things to do, but no I am def not planning this AHR..I certainly don't have the time. All I have to do is phone the people I personally want to invite, I took it into my own hands to make a cupcake tower (not sure what I just got myself into) and I'll do a little decoration in the hall (nothing fancy, everything cheap) just to have a touch of feeling of wedding. a few cheap centerpieces, and a few hanging things. We will not spend more then $700.. sounds affule, but I wont be hiring a DJ there is a sound system in the hall, i wont be paying for ppls alcohol, it`s be a pay bar. I`m only having `midnight`snack (sandwhich,pickles, cheese, vegy`s and dip and salad)

And mint favours lol!!

i didn`t want this, the family did.. soooooo they better enjoy!

 

Oh Michele, Loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee your pictures!!!! And I definitely don`t blame you checking to see if they were there every day and sending some emails lol. You did better then what I would have done waiting for those darn pics to come!

[caribbeanLover]

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Originally Posted by echo2_62 I haven't ever heard of that myself but I think it's a really good idea!! And just to expand on what the other girls suggested, you could always pull out a single memory each on an anniversary or some other special occasion, and then save the whole lot of the others for the bad times when you really need the extra reminders And no one says you can't put them back in the box once you've read the notes either! And Taylor, I have to say that your comments about how you and hubby did that for an entire year to work through your problems really hit me today. I know I'd shared with most of you the problems I was having before our wedding around FI's bachelor party disaster (which I could barely bring myself to admit nearly ended our wedding plans) and while I have absolutely zero regrets in marrying him, I'm still having huge difficulties dealing with the issues that event created especially related to my trusting him in some aspects. What you said just seemed to make so much sense to me because deep down I know that despite the really stupid decisions that were made and how hurt or angry I feel, there are a million more reasons that I love him in spite of all that... and I really need to make sure I focus on those things every day!!! Thank you so, so much!! And I must add (on a positive last note!) that I love your pictures Michele & Taylor!! I didn't get any sorts of those shots so I'm completely jealous that you both look so gorgeous!

awwww, Meghan . I know exactly what your going through now. DH and I had gone through some tough years, basicaly he had done things that made me not trust him, and not trusting someone you love, pretty much kills you, it effects your entire life, especially your relationship. I had done some stupid things because I was soooo angry and hurt and disappointed.
Lots of talking and and trying to get out of the house to do things sort of helped us out. I guess a year into our problems, he said something right finally and it just clicked, I needed to either forgive him and move on , or just move on.
WHo`s to say we wont have another tough problem, so again i love the box idea.

I am so happy you don`t regret anything, and you feel you made the right decison in marrying him. I know i had some problems too, and wanted to call off the wedding, but obvously nothing compare to you, DH didn`t even get a bachlore party cause I got to sick on mine lol!! he had to come and save meI hope things get easier for you,but it seems like you got a good grip on things .we miss hearing from you a little more often.. what else is new with you girl!!!! Hows work treating you, hope not tooo busy.

And I almost forgot to mention, Nat... Has DH moved in yet? If so how is the transition treating the 2 of you? Must be a big difference, but a great feeling I can imagine. Keep us posted.

[shortnsweet7675]

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Originally Posted by hoyt75 Okay ladies, I know we’re all busy and what-not, but I’m looking for a little feedback and some suggestions. On our honeymoon, my wonderful hubby came up with idea that we’ve dubbed as “the love boxâ€. We would have a box and jot down little notes with what we love about each other. Nothing in particular; big things, little things, or just things that make us smile about the other person. The idea is that if we ever got into a rough spot we would then open the box and read the little notes containing the reasons for our love. It would serve as a reminder as to why we got married in the first place, and how our love has blossomed and flourished over the years. Now it would have to be a really rough spot, not just that we bickered one night, I mean rough/hard/we need help kind of thing. There could be no early peaking into the box, only positive comments allowed, and I’m thinking it would more of a small wooden box with a slot on the top and a fake heart lock on it w/ a key taped to the bottom… something along that line. DH has set a goal that he wants us to make it to our 50th anniversary. We’ve had problems in the past, as do we all at one point or another, but we’ve worked through them and he’s thinking that this would serve as a good reminder when needed. What do you think? Have you ever heard of or seen such a thing?

Wow, that's such a sweet idea! You have a great guy!