Stressed out...Is it Rude?
Posted 02 June 2009 - 11:42 PM
We decided to have a casual outing at a Sports Bar here for friends and then get together and have a homeade dinner with the immediate family and thats it. No venue, no food or drinks or gifts or anything.
Am I being selfish in not wanting to have an AHR? Will people be offended that we didn't plan a bigger event?
We really need the money to get a place to live in Australia and buy stuff as we had to sell everything we owned since we couldn't take most of it with us
Any advice is appreciated!
Posted 02 June 2009 - 11:48 PM
I felt all that same pressure to have an AHR, like we owed it to people for having a DW. It made me sick everytime I started to plan the thing. I finally had the wonderful joy of canceling it when my brother started planning his wedding right after mine. We decided there wasn't time for all the events. It was like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders.
We ended up having a little AHR, but just because my MIL wanted to throw it. It was the day after my brother's wedding. Still, I don't think anyone would have cared if we did that.
You don't owe people a dinner & drinks just to get married. I don't know when it turned in to this. I wish I didn't waste time worrying about others expectations & just enjoyed planning my wedding.
If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't even call it a post wedding thing, but just a going away party.
I wonder how many people on here actually enjoyed there AHR. Sounds like so many of us dreaded having it.
Posted 02 June 2009 - 11:51 PM
Posted 03 June 2009 - 01:06 AM
I think it's fine - it's up to you. There are lots of people who don't have AHRs! Like I figured out and what Morgan said - you don't owe people a good time because you got married!!
Posted 03 June 2009 - 01:19 AM
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Posted 03 June 2009 - 08:31 AM
For us, when we get back from our DW, we will probably just have a few close friends over for a BBQ and show off our pics.
Don't stress! Everything is stressfull enough without having to add more.
Posted 03 June 2009 - 09:04 AM
OMG!!! I think people will be impressed that you're still breathing, let alone throwing an AHR!!!!
You are not being selfish, you are being realistic!
Posted 03 June 2009 - 09:13 AM
Don't worry, Don't Stress, and stick to your plan of the beautiful DW!!
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