| Originally Posted by Just Martha |
What do you mean about cultures? You think one culture says they pay for themselves over one saying we pay for it?
My mom says we should pay for them, FI's family says they should pay for their own....And, FI's sister and brother-in-law are probably the only ones that would not stay where we are.
Traditionally at Indian weddings (my family is Indian) guests give gifts of money to the couple (and in Parsi weddings also to the parents, brothers, sisters, etc...!). However I find that our guests who are born and raised here in the US prefer to give gifts (either of their own choosing or off a registry). So in the end we registered. But the sort of funny thing that happened was it confused the Indian side of the family - they suddenly weren't sure if they should send $ as is the custom or buy a gift off the registry. In the end they asked my mom and she told them basically that it was still acceptable to send $$. I know that has nothing to do with your personal dilemna but I thought it sort of described what i meant about different cultures viewing things differently.... if that doesn't make sense feel free to ignore it!
Anyway so Indian weddings are also historically huge and extravagant. We're not having a wedding that is either to be honest, but maybe that's where my train of thought comes from.
I hope I haven't offended anybody - i certainly don't think anyone is a bad person for paying/not paying. Everyone is different so just go with your gut - hopefully very few people will stay somewhere else anyway!