Will I be a bridezilla if...
Posted 14 May 2009 - 01:38 PM
just my 2 cents. Good luck!
Posted 14 May 2009 - 01:40 PM
If someone asked me to sign a contract like this, I would excuse myself from being in their wedding and I in fact would not go to the wedding and would probably no longer be friends with them.
This has to be one of the most bridezilla things I have heard to date and I have heard a lot of things.
Again, if your friends know that this it the kind of person you are then they probably will not be shocked. I think they would assume its a joke though, and not take it seriously, but they might not be offended. We don't know you and so we are just going on how we would react if one of our friends asked us, but your friends know you, so like I said before, they might not be surprised at all.
Posted 14 May 2009 - 01:43 PM
Posted 14 May 2009 - 01:45 PM
| Originally Posted by CrystalM |
I wrote up a contract for my wedding party?
I'm not talking about the contract like not wanting my BM's to change their hair color or no getting pregnant.
I think it's semi tacky to ask someone to be part of your day and then ask them to pay for everything so I'm buying my BM dresses, shoes, paying for half of their hotel rooms, and "lending" my photographer out to them for them to have nice pro photos of them and their families (2 are bringing her hubby and kids and the 3rd's date is her mom, who was also invited). Total is about $300-400 each.
If they decide after I've paid for said things not to go or can't go, for any reason, I don't want to lose the money.
I'm a photographer and I know the value of a contract is worth it's weight in Platinum...FI says that bringing in a contract into something like this is going to make me lose friends, but I think it's important for me not to be out that money if someone flakes on me...
I'm confused by "lending" your photographer. Are you flying a photographer in & having them do family portraits of your bridal party while they are there? Have you talked to them about this? usually a contract specifies how much shooting time you are getting so you can't just assume they will be doing anything you want the entire trip. Also, then they have that many more pictures to edit when they return. You said you are a photographer, so you've probably thought about all that. I just don't want girls reading that to get the impression that they can give their DW photographer an extra list of jobs to do.
Posted 14 May 2009 - 01:47 PM
Posted 14 May 2009 - 01:52 PM
Posted 14 May 2009 - 02:23 PM
Posted 14 May 2009 - 02:25 PM
Posted 14 May 2009 - 02:35 PM
Posted 14 May 2009 - 02:36 PM
I understand your concerns about losing money and think it's super sweet of you to want to do all these things for your wedding party; but things happen and people back out whether for understandable or for non-acceptable reasons - it's the reality of a DW.
I agree with the other ladies -- either rethink having a wedding party because nothing is ever 100% guaranteed when you are involving other people OR rethink what you are doing for your BM's so if anyone does back out you can get your money back.
I don't mean to be harsh .. but I would like to save you the heartache of making the mistake of hurting those that you love.
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