Should STD announce AHR?
Posted 13 May 2009 - 10:15 AM
Here's my dilemma. A lot of my family and FI family are complaining that a trip to Mexico for our wedding will be too much. Although, we do have some family that is willing to come to the ceremony despite the out of pocket expense they'll incur. I want to make this as comfortable for everyone as possible, so I was thinking if I should include our intention to have an AHR on the STD. That way people can decide to skip out on Mexico and attend the AHR instead, which will be much cheaper for them. At the same time I am scared to do this because I still want people at my ceremony, what if everyone just decides to go to the AHR instead?
Should I just send the STD without the AHR announcement and send that at a later time (4 months before wedding date), or send the STD with AHR details?
I am just really afraid that if I don't send AHR info on the STD, family will complain, "Well, why did you make me pay for the trip when I could just see you when you return?! I could've saved so much money! Why didn't you mention an AHR when you sent STD?!"
Has anyone gone through this? What did you do?
Posted 14 May 2009 - 12:03 AM
Posted 14 May 2009 - 12:13 AM
It's great to have a website where everyone can visit and keep themselves updated. And to not exclude anyone, it's important to share all information at once. People may change their mind last minute about going to Mexico...what if you didn't invite them to begin with? That's not nice, lol. Good luck!
Posted 14 May 2009 - 05:05 PM
Posted 14 May 2009 - 05:24 PM
I respect the other girls about announcing it on the STD, but I personally wouldnt. I would see how many people are planning to come to Mexico, and announce later that you're having a AHR because a lot of people couldn't afford it due to the economy and you didn't want them to feel obligated....that way it doesnt make it sound like you're hiding it from anyone, but simply that you did it as an added convenience for people after you started getting responses to the STD's. I hope that makes sense!
Posted 14 May 2009 - 06:05 PM
I also was not worried about people choosing to go to home party over Mexico - I think if they choose at home party over going away, they could not be counted on to go regardless.
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