Not having bridesmaids anymore but honorary bms...ever heard of it?
Posted 08 May 2009 - 08:49 AM
Anyway, due to all of the above and due to the fact that only 35 people are actually coming to the wedding (this number was originally 75 people) I decided that it was best not to have bms/gm and just have everyone enjoy the wedding without having to worry about getting a dress etc. I am only asking my sisters to dress in the same color and walk down the aisle, and sit down. I asked the others to just wear the same color (a different color from my sisters), but they will not stand next to me or walk down the aisle.
However, I still would like to honor my maids of honor in some way but I just can't think how. I keep hearing/reading about honorary bms but don't really know how that works. Any suggestions?
Posted 08 May 2009 - 08:53 AM
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Posted 08 May 2009 - 09:15 AM
Since your situation is a little different, I don't really have many suggestions, but wanted to give you an idea of how someone else dealt with it. Good luck with whatever you choose to do!
Posted 08 May 2009 - 09:17 AM
My 3 girlfriends were unable to come and so I called them "honorary bridesmaids" as they wore matching dresses to our at home reception.
Hope this helps! I'm just trying to say that just because they don't stand at the front, if you want them to wear matching dresses and if they are walking down the aisle with you then I would call them bridesmaids! However if they are not walking down the aisle, then I don't really see the point in them dressing matching, they would probably just prefer to wear their own thing. But maybe not, if they want to wear matching dresses then go for it.
Posted 08 May 2009 - 09:35 AM
most of them couldn't attend the wedding. Only 2 made it. I liked not having official BMs because I didn't want anyone to feel pressure to go. With all the things that come up, it was better that most of them didn't make the trip. One friend was pregnant & another unemployed. One was selling a house & the other was moving. Just lots of stuff going on in their life & not the best time to jet off to mexico.
I took pictures with the 2 girls that made it the day after the wedding. But, they wore their wedding dresses. It was a blast doing a three bride TTD.
In all my times as a bridesmaid, i'd be just as happy as a guest. Or maybe just invited to get ready with the bride, but then go take a seat for the wedding.
I invited the girls to drop in my room while i was getting ready. I didn't want them to stay with me all that time & miss out on the beautiful day at the beach. They popped in wearing swimsuits just in time to zip me up. our photographer got some funny pictures of that.
Posted 08 May 2009 - 11:53 AM
But, my younger cousin who I am very close with decided within the past 2 months that she can afford to come to the wedding and I wanted to include her in some way as she is close family-- so I am having her as an Honorary BM and she will be doing a reading in our wedding and included in all the BM's activities as well as receive a gift.
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