| Originally Posted by Sloan |
I was a bit annoyed. Considering the same "friend" couldnt be bothered to send back the RSVP for my own wedding or phone or send an email saying congrats or hey I cant come. I wasnt able to make their wedding, so tacky as it may be I didnt send the RSVP back or bother to get her a "monetary gift". Tit for tat. Im a vindictive bitch and dont care.
how to ask or suggest for only money as a wedding gift
Posted 20 April 2010 - 11:28 AM
Posted 20 April 2010 - 02:34 PM
Posted 20 April 2010 - 02:40 PM
| Originally Posted by jennifer769405 |
I was wondering about this same thing! My fiance's aunt sent me a message asking if we were registered anywhere and I told her no, that we were not expecting gifts and appreciate the effort people have made to be there with us. And her response was: any suggestions?? I have no idea how to respond to that??!!
Posted 21 April 2010 - 11:58 AM
I know this is totally my opinion.....and I hope Im not offending anyone, but honestly-I have been too so many weddings, and bridal showers and I always take a deep breath and shake my head when I see "green back" or "cash only". I mean really.......Im getting married because Im in love, and I want to be my fiances wife- not because Im excited about getting gifts and money. Im even awkward over the fact that people THINK they have to get us anything. One thing to be invited to attend a wedding or wedding shower etc, another thing to be TOLD what to bring. My fiance and I have own house, we ve been together 9 years.....but I soo appreciated the new dishes, the new bed sheets, the towels, the gift certificates, the homemade crafts-I thought it was so sweet people even brought me anything! I was so grateful.
Dont get me wrong, I think registries are a great idea. Often people wanna give you something you will use and you will need. But unless you're like my grandmother or a close relative-i do not feel comfortable event taking your money. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable asking for donations towards a honeymoon? Its my opinion that if you need people to contribute to that, then yous shouldn't be planning one....again, its one thing for your parents or grandparents to slip you cash because they wanna HELP....but its another thing to demand money from guests. I think its embarrassing, and anytime Ive seen it done, I see the same reaction from people......
I feel far to string about the money thing to have even posted here I think! lol......again, just my opinion, Im sorry if Ive offended anyone....
Having said all that-because we felt so strongly about it, we included something like, "the only gift we ask for is your presence on our wedding day" We plan to have our reception when we get home too-again, the point is to have people celebrate our wedding with us-drinks, laughter, dancing, good conversations, catching up with friends, and have also included that the same line on our reception invite......
Posted 21 April 2010 - 06:22 PM
Posted 21 April 2010 - 06:39 PM
Just an idea!
Posted 22 April 2010 - 10:00 PM
Posted 25 April 2010 - 09:49 AM
I would not suggest that people give you money, but rather just mention that you don't need anything for your apartment (if they choose to give you money, great -- if not, you'll still probably end up with a thoughtful gift from them).
Posted 26 April 2010 - 12:37 AM
I just don't think it's good etiquette to refer to gifts at all on the invitation.
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