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Mother of the Groom- wearing a white dress too----HELP

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#11 boscobel

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    Posted 04 May 2009 - 10:30 PM

    Def have FI talk to her. It might not be a big deal to some people, but if it is to you, then she def needs to not wear it. Is it possible it's like a sundress? So that might make it not so bad??

    Etiquette rules say that the mother of the bride chooses her dress and then the mother of the groom, so the fact that she would choose a dress and not confirm with you isn't exactly normal as well. Now I know that we aren't much for ettiquette around here, but there are some rules that still matter. If this is one that you care about, def have a talk with her. Does FI have a sister? It might come better better from a female.

    #12 Maybride2009

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      Posted 04 May 2009 - 10:37 PM

      whoops! Hopefully she just didn't know..although it is kinda common sense.
      Hope you get this resolved with no conflict...hopefully it is white with LARGE COLOURful print or something !

      #13 Heather Huggins

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        Posted 04 May 2009 - 10:44 PM

        yikes! I'm surprised at the choice, even though it's hot on the beach there is plenty of destination appropriate attire for weddings! I would definitely see if the FI would nicely bring it up to her! I hope it all works out!

        #14 nina1589

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          Posted 04 May 2009 - 11:05 PM

          Def have fi talk with her. He needs to tell her asap, that way she can't pull the " i dont have time to find another"

          #15 nibsmom

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            Posted 05 May 2009 - 05:55 PM

            My mom had mentioned getting a white dress at one point. I think she was just trying to think of ways to stay cool since we'll be in Mexico in July and it will be super hot. I just told her no right off the bat, and she understood.

            She did end up getting a white dress with pink and orange flowers on it - which I don't mind. As long as it's not solid white. Maybe this is the case with your MOTG??

            If not, I definitely agree with having FI talk to her...

            #16 Hartyt509

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              Posted 05 May 2009 - 06:05 PM

              If you aren't happy about it have FI tell her, his mother his job.

              I didn't care about white as my dress is black anyway lol but there was no chuffing way anyone was wearing pink and they all understood lol

              #17 KLC77

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                Posted 05 May 2009 - 06:35 PM

                I agree with the other girls, have FI talk to her and tell her she can wear it another day on the trip, but not the wedding day.

                Also, do you have a wedding website for guests to view? We had a section on ours giving guests an idea of what to wear to our beach wedding. Here's what it said, Stay comfortable for our ceremony on the beach... Sundresses, khaki pants, collared t-shirts are all welcome. Jackets and ties are not required. Comfy sandals or flip flops or just leave your shoes at home! Don't forget your sunglasses... (ummmm, don't wear white. lol)

                Its a joke, kind of. I think it gets the point across. :)

                Our Awesome Wedding Pics: http://www.delsolpho...ings/kelly&ron/

                #18 inunez

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                  Posted 05 May 2009 - 09:01 PM

                  ummm... yeah! has she never been to a wedding before? has never been married! what the hell is she thinking?!?! yeah your FI should be handling this one. it's his mother. anything that has to deal with my FI's family and etiquette, i always tell him to take care of it...and he always does!

                  #19 fmsmith423

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                    Posted 06 May 2009 - 06:59 AM

                    Thanks Ladies for all the support.

                    She sent me a picture of the dress and I was like "Really, you have got to be kidding me". I printed the picture and showed it to my FI and he was like "why are you showing me your wedding dress?" I said exactly...this is your mothers dress and he was like are you serious, I will talk to her.

                    It's just really annoying, as we all know it can get kind of stressful planning a wedding that is NOT CLOSE TO YOU and I just didnt need this on my plate...this is my final week and I just freaked out. Our wedding is next month!

                    Anyways, my FI talked to his sister and she reassured him that she would never let her get a white dress. It is an all tan dress and she will be wearing gold shoes. SO, my FI and I are going to see the dress and decide for ourselves.

                    It's just a pain im my ass because they are throwing me a shower this weekend and I know they are going to bring it up a million times.

                    AAHHHHH....so stressful

                    I will keep everyone updated.

                    Thanks again for your thought and comments :)

                    Happy planning.

                    #20 michellepicksbrent

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                      Posted 06 May 2009 - 07:03 AM

                      OMG you must have died when your FMIL emailed you the picture!! I'm glad to hear that your FH said he would talk to his mom without your asking, it probably takes a lot of stress out of the situation. Hopefully her dress isn't as bridal as the picture sounds and everything works out for you.

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