Help settle the Tipping Debate
Posted 01 May 2009 - 12:26 PM
So here is the question. Both my wedding planner and my resort are charging a 21% service fee on our package. Now I am not sure what others are paying but it seems pretty in line for the united states with a typical 20% tip but with the amounts we are spending it is a large sum.
Anyway the debate is over if we should be giving additional tips. I think yes, I don't think that my planner is going to share that with all the vendors. So I think we should at least tip the guitarist for our ceremony, the steel drum player for our cocktail hour, and the wait staff.
The my planner, the photog, and the DJ all work together like a package (and kind of the same company) So I think that I am ok with not giving an additional tip there, maybe, but I am not sure how to handle that.
His argument is that for example the wait staff what are we paying the 21% for if not for the wait staff tip... He is a firm believer in tipping should be at the customers discression, so if you charge us for a tip that that is it, no matter how the service is.
It really isn't worth the fight especially because I will never see these people again and I do kinda agree with him in some ways but I would be super embarassed if additional money is expected and we don't give it. I am super weird that way I don't want to look cheap... What a world we live in lol.
Long story I know but what do you ladies think?
Posted 01 May 2009 - 01:12 PM
Could you ask your wedding planner if any of the 21% service goes to the waitstaff?
Posted 01 May 2009 - 01:39 PM
There are 2- 21% charges one from her which is fine this is how she makes her living and one from the resort for the reception. So in a sense 42% in tips or service fees... My FI is not a cheap person but we paid for the whole thing ourselves and he feels it's more then enough... The problem is that there is no right or wrong answers.. so how does anyone know what to do! thanks for the advice
Posted 01 May 2009 - 01:44 PM
Posted 01 May 2009 - 02:21 PM
Posted 01 May 2009 - 02:32 PM
But it is good to know that the money is in fact going to given out to the people that are working the event. That eases my mind if we decide to not do anything additonal.
Thanks for the inside tip
Posted 02 May 2009 - 01:08 PM
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